Writing a eulogy for a Marine can feel huge and personal at the same time. You want to honor their service, their unit, and the person they were at home. This guide breaks it down into simple steps, explains military terms so you sound confident, and gives real examples and fill in the blank templates you can adapt. Read through, pick a template, and start writing in a way that feels like them.
We know how hard that can feel. You are sorting through precious memories, searching for the right words, and trying to hold it together when it is time to speak. It is a lot to carry.
That is why we created a simple step by step eulogy writing guide. It gently walks you through what to include, how to shape your thoughts, and how to feel more prepared when the moment comes. → Find Out More
Quick Links to Useful Sections
- Who this guide is for
- What is a eulogy and what makes one for a Marine different
- Terms and acronyms you might see
- How long should a eulogy for a Marine be
- Before you start writing
- Structure that works
- How to mention rank and awards without sounding like a citation
- Anecdotes that work for Marines
- Addressing deployment trauma and loss
- Using humor with respect
- What to avoid
- Full eulogy examples you can adapt
- Example 1: Fellow Marine and friend, three to five minute version
- Example 2: Parent speaking for a son lost in his twenties, short version
- Example 3: Civilian spouse balancing family and service, longer version
- Example 4: Reservist who balanced civilian life and service, light tone
- Fill in the blank templates
- Practical tips for delivery
- How to handle tears or losing your place
- Military honors and what they mean
- Logistics to confirm before the service
- What to do if you want to include poems or readings
- What to avoid in a eulogy for a Marine
- Sharing the eulogy after the service
- Glossary of useful military terms
- Frequently asked questions
Who this guide is for
This article is for anyone who has been asked to speak for a Marine at a funeral, memorial, graveside service, or celebration of life. Maybe you are a spouse, sibling, parent, fellow Marine, or civilian friend who loved them. Maybe the service will include military honors. We cover what to say about rank, deployments, decorations, and how to balance service details with personal stories that matter to friends and family.
What is a eulogy and what makes one for a Marine different
A eulogy is a short speech that honors a person who has died. For a Marine the eulogy often includes service details like rank, unit, deployments, and awards. It can also acknowledge military protocols like flag presentation and the playing of Taps. But a eulogy is still a story. It should reveal who the Marine was beyond the uniform.
Terms and acronyms you might see
- USMC Stands for United States Marine Corps. This is the branch of the military your Marine served in.
- Rank The title that shows a service member s level, for example private or sergeant. In a eulogy you can include rank as a mark of respect.
- Unit The specific group or battalion the Marine belonged to. It helps ground their service in a community.
- Taps A bugle call played at military funerals. It signals final honors and is emotionally powerful.
- Military honors These are the official rites for veterans. They commonly include flag folding and presentation and the playing of Taps. The details can vary.
- VA Stands for Department of Veterans Affairs. The VA handles benefits and some memorial matters for veterans.
- Pallbearer A person who helps carry the casket. Pallbearers are often fellow service members or close friends and family.
How long should a eulogy for a Marine be
Short and clear usually lands best. Aim for three to seven minutes. That is about 400 to 800 spoken words. If the ceremony includes military honors or multiple speakers coordinate length so the service stays on schedule. A tight, honest speech focused on two or three things people will remember beats a long list of deployments and medals with no story attached.
Before you start writing
- Ask about logistics Confirm how long you are expected to speak and where your eulogy fits in the order of events. If military honors are scheduled ask when they happen so your words sit respectfully with the program.
- Check with the family or unit rep Some families prefer the service to emphasize service details. Others want the civilian side of the person to be central. Ask which is preferred.
- Gather key facts Collect name, rank, unit, service dates, and awards if the family wants those included. Also gather nicknames, habits, and a few vivid memories from family and friends.
- Decide the tone Will it be solemn, celebratory, humorous, or a mix? Marines and military families often welcome light, earned humor that shows character and camaraderie.
- Pick two to three focus points Choose a small number of things you want people to remember. Examples are courage, loyalty, sense of humor, love of family, or a favorite saying.
Structure that works
Use this shape to make your speech easy to follow and to write.
- Opening Say who you are and why you are speaking. A short line sets the scene and gives you a moment to breathe.
- Service sketch Briefly mention rank and service elements if the family wants them mentioned. Keep this concise and factual.
- Personal memory Tell one or two short stories that reveal character. Specifics beat platitudes.
- What they taught Summarize the values the Marine passed on to family and friends.
- Closing Offer a clear goodbye line, a short quote, or a call to action like raising a glass or sharing one memory with a neighbor.
How to mention rank and awards without sounding like a citation
It is okay to say rank and mention awards. Keep it human. You might say Corporal James Miller served with Bravo Company from 2009 to 2013 and earned a Navy and Marine Corps Achievement Medal. Then move quickly into an anecdote that shows what those years meant. People in the room will appreciate accuracy. People outside the unit will connect through story.
Anecdotes that work for Marines
People remember stories not lists. Choose a story with a small setup, an action, and a payoff that explains why it matters. Stories that show humor, self sacrifice, mentorship, or care for family are especially powerful.
Example anecdote ideas
- The time they fixed a friend s car at midnight and refused a thank you because the friend was family.
- How they taught their kid to tie a tie with the same patience they used in the barracks.
- The way they lined up Christmas lights with military precision but let the dog sleep on the couch despite regulations at home.
Addressing deployment trauma and loss
If the Marine had combat experience or trauma you do not need to tell graphic details. Acknowledge the service honestly and focus on resilience, compassion, and the ways they sought help or supported others. If they were struggling with reintegration or mental health you can name that without stigma by saying they fought with injuries you cannot see and that they were brave enough to ask for help.
Using humor with respect
Humor works if it is earned and kind. Marines often used humor to cope. Use a short, specific joke or memory that the room will recognize and follow it with a sincere line. That gives emotional balance and invites a smile as well as a tear.
What to avoid
- Avoid operational specifics that could harm privacy or safety.
- Avoid crude or divisive jokes that could upset family or veterans present.
- Avoid reading long lists of dates and awards without tying them to a short story.
- Avoid controversial political statements at a memorial unless the family explicitly asks for that tone.
Full eulogy examples you can adapt
Below are complete examples tailored to different situations. Replace bracketed text with your details and adjust tone to fit the event.
Example 1: Fellow Marine and friend, three to five minute version
Hello. I am Staff Sergeant Aaron Lee and I served with Chris in Echo Company. Chris wore the uniform like it fit his values. He was steady, loud when it mattered, and the first to crack a bad joke when someone was low. He joined the Marines because he wanted to be part of something bigger than himself and he kept that sense of team for the rest of his life.
One night after a long training exercise we sat around a cooler and Chris pulled out a stack of postcards. He had been writing notes to people who had helped him along the way. He handed one to each of us. Mine said Thank you for standing up for me. That was Chris in a line. He believed in people and in showing up. He taught me how to lead with kindness and to laugh when the smoke gets thick.
We will miss his laugh and the way he made a squad feel like a family. To his wife Jenna and his kids Liam and Rosie, thank you for sharing him with us. Because he was a Marine he expected excellence. Because he was our friend he gave us grace. Let s remember him by helping someone next week the way he would have. Semper Fidelis.
Example 2: Parent speaking for a son lost in his twenties, short version
Hi. I am Maria Ortega. My son Luis loved the Corps for the same reason he loved music. It gave him a place to belong and a reason to be brave. He came home from deployments with stories he rarely told and with a new appreciation for pancakes on rainy mornings. He taught our family to be quieter listeners and louder laughers.
Being asked to give a eulogy is an honour, but it can feel daunting when you are grieving. This guide offers a calm, step by step process so you are not starting from a blank page alone.
You will learn how to:
- Gather memories with simple prompts.
- Shape them into a clear structure.
- Choose wording that sounds like you when read aloud.
What is inside: short outlines, prompts, example eulogies and delivery tips to support you from first notes to final reading.
Perfect for: family, friends and colleagues who want to honour a loved one with sincere, manageable words.
Luis had a way of making you feel important. If you needed a hand he was there. If you needed a joke he had twenty. We are proud of his service and we miss the small things like his habit of fixing everything in five minutes flat. Thank you for being here to hold him with us.
Example 3: Civilian spouse balancing family and service, longer version
Hello. I am Kayla, his wife. Nate joined the Marines when he was nineteen and he came home with a love for coffee and a devotion to our family that surprised even him. He was a dad who would read the same book fifty times and still invent new voices for the characters. He also had a Marine s practicality. He mowed the lawn in neat rows and he taught our daughter to clean a wound and to apologize with eye contact.
When he was away I learned to look for the small rituals that kept us tied. He sent photographs of sunsets, he left notes in pockets, and he called to ask how the garden was doing. When the bad days came he asked for help and he let us sit with him. I am grateful for every messy, beautiful day we had together. He wanted to be remembered as someone who showed up and who loved fiercely. Today we do that for him.
Example 4: Reservist who balanced civilian life and service, light tone
Hey everyone. I am Mark, his coworker. To know Dave was to know someone who could fix your truck, build a deck, and then show up at your kid s soccer game in full combat boots by accident. He took his drill weekends seriously but he took his barbecue even more seriously. He believed in duty and in potato salad done right.
Dave taught us that service is a part of who you are and not all you are. He would want us to laugh because he loved a room full of noise and good food. Tell a Dave story tonight and pass the potato salad. That would make him grin.
Fill in the blank templates
Pick a template and swap in your details. Read it out loud and trim anything that feels forced.
Template A: Short and respectful
My name is [Your Name]. I am [relationship]. [Rank and name] served in the United States Marine Corps with [unit if family agrees]. They were [one or two character traits]. One memory that shows who they were is [brief story]. They taught me [value or lesson]. Thank you for being here to honor [name].
Template B: For a fellow Marine or unit speaker
I am [Your Name]. I had the honor of serving with [rank and name] in [unit]. What I will always remember is [specific moment]. That moment showed how they led, how they cared, and how they made the unit better. Semper Fidelis and thank you for standing with us today.
Being asked to give a eulogy is an honour, but it can feel daunting when you are grieving. This guide offers a calm, step by step process so you are not starting from a blank page alone.
You will learn how to:
- Gather memories with simple prompts.
- Shape them into a clear structure.
- Choose wording that sounds like you when read aloud.
What is inside: short outlines, prompts, example eulogies and delivery tips to support you from first notes to final reading.
Perfect for: family, friends and colleagues who want to honour a loved one with sincere, manageable words.
Template C: Parent or spouse, honest and raw
My name is [Your Name]. [Name] was my [son daughter spouse]. They put on their uniform with pride and came home putting family first. They taught us to [small lesson]. I will miss [small everyday thing]. We will carry them with us in [specific way].
Practical tips for delivery
- Print your speech Use large font. Paper is easier to handle than a phone when you are emotional.
- Keep cue cards Two or three index cards with short bullet points can be very helpful.
- Practice out loud Read it to a friend, your partner, or to the dog. Practice will calm your breath and your voice.
- Mark pauses Put a mark where you want to breathe or where the audience will laugh or clap. Pauses are your friend.
- Bring water and tissues A sip of water can reset your voice and tissues are practical.
- Coordinate with the honor guard If military honors are scheduled confirm timing and where you should stand. Ask if the flag folding and presentation happen before or after your words.
- Have someone on standby If you think you may not finish, ask a close friend or family member to be ready to step up and finish a closing line for you.
How to handle tears or losing your place
If you cry pause, breathe, and look at your notes. Slow your words down. The room will wait. If you lose your place move to your next talking point or ask for a breath before resuming. If you cannot continue ask your designated person to finish your last line. Many powerful eulogies happen in pieces and that is okay.
Military honors and what they mean
Military honors typically include a flag folded and presented to a next of kin and the playing of Taps. An honor guard may be present depending on eligibility and local protocols. These rites are meant to recognize service and provide a moment of closure. If you are not sure what will happen speak with the funeral director or the unit liaison who arranged the honors. They will tell you the order so your speech fits respectfully with the ceremony.
Logistics to confirm before the service
- Confirm timing with the officiant and with the person coordinating military honors.
- Ask whether you will have a microphone and whether you should bring printed copies for the family or program.
- Confirm where to stand if the flag folding will happen at the casket or at the end of the service.
- Find out if the bugler will play live or if recorded Taps will be used. A live bugler can be very moving and sometimes needs a moment of silence after the call.
What to do if you want to include poems or readings
Short readings work best. Choose two to four lines rather than an entire long poem. Readings can be secular or religious. Confirm with the officiant and with the family. If including a patriotic poem or piece about service make sure it matches the tone the family wants.
What to avoid in a eulogy for a Marine
- Avoid graphic descriptions of combat or injuries.
- Avoid military operations details that should stay private.
- Avoid politics in a way that might divide the room.
- Avoid making the entire speech about medals without human context.
Sharing the eulogy after the service
Many families want copies. Offer to email it or to include it in a memory book. If a recording is made ask permission before posting online. Some families prefer privacy. If you do share include a note about where donations or remembrances can be directed if the family asked for that information to be public.
Glossary of useful military terms
- Semper Fidelis Latin for Always Faithful. This is the Marine Corps motto. People often say Semper Fi as a shorter form.
- Honor guard A team of service members who perform ceremonial duties at funerals and other events.
- Bugler A musician who plays bugle calls like Taps at military funerals.
- Flag presentation The folded flag is presented to the next of kin as part of military honors.
- VA Department of Veterans Affairs, the agency that handles benefits and some memorial questions for veterans.
Frequently asked questions
Should I include rank and unit in the eulogy
Yes if the family wants it. Mention rank and unit briefly to honor service and then quickly move to personal stories. The uniform part is important but not the whole person.
What is Taps and when is it played
Taps is a bugle call played at military funerals. It usually follows the flag folding and presentation or it may be played at the close of a graveside service. Confirm timing with the funeral director so your speech does not overlap.
Can I speak about combat experiences
Be careful with details. Acknowledge service and sacrifice but avoid graphic accounts. The family may prefer privacy for operational matters. Focus on what the Marine taught others and how they lived after service.
Is it okay to use humor
Yes, as long as the humor is kind and earned. Marines often used humor as a way to care for one another. A short, affectionate joke that reveals character is welcome.
What if I cannot finish the eulogy
Pause, breathe, and ask for a short moment. If you cannot continue have a friend or family member ready to finish a closing line. Many eulogies are completed in pieces and that is normal.
Should I give a copy to the funeral home
Yes. Give a printed copy to the officiant or the person running the service. They may include it in the program or have it on hand in case they need it for timing.
Being asked to give a eulogy is an honour, but it can feel daunting when you are grieving. This guide offers a calm, step by step process so you are not starting from a blank page alone.
You will learn how to:
- Gather memories with simple prompts.
- Shape them into a clear structure.
- Choose wording that sounds like you when read aloud.
What is inside: short outlines, prompts, example eulogies and delivery tips to support you from first notes to final reading.
Perfect for: family, friends and colleagues who want to honour a loved one with sincere, manageable words.