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Merle Vernon Smith - April 04, 1938 - April 20, 2022

Departed: 04/20/2022 (Bartlesville)

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Merle Vernon Smith entered into life April 4, 1938, in Linsborg, KS. He grew up in Little River, KS, where he attended school. He loved living on the family farm. His family moved into town when he was ten, but he always wanted to go back to the farm. He worked along side of his father and learned how to work on machinery. He could fix anything—electrical, home repair, plumbing, & etc.—and had no fear of heights.

He enlisted in the navy, doing his basic training in San Diego, CA. He served from October 30, 1960, to October 21, 1964, on the aircraft carrier Bon Homme Richard that was stationed in Hong Kong, Okinawa, Japan, along with stops in Hawaii and the Philippines.

He moved to Henryetta, OK after his discharge. He helped build Interstate 40 and the Indian Nation Turnpike. During this time, the trucker met the waitress, Brenda, and they married October 2, 1965. They have two children who are loved and cherished: Kim and James.

He graduated from Okmulgee Tech in August 1967 and went to work for Phillips in Bartlesville, OK for twenty-nine years as a Senior Electronics Instrument Technician. He retired November 7, 1995.

In December of 1996 he began working for Heartland Cement in Independence, KS as an Instrument & Electronics Supervisor, retiring February 29, 2000.

His dream of returning to the farm was realized on August 8, 1995, when they bought 160 acres of beautiful land in Dustin, OK that he loved to visit and play on with his tractor or work in his shop.

He was a proud member of the Fraternal Order of the Eagles Aerie 10 from 1983 to present.

He was a member of the Trinity Baptist Church.

Cornerstone Hospice helped with his care. He entered into rest at 84 years old with his wife by his side on April 20, 2022, in Bartlesville, OK.

Many thanks to Dr. Mehrle, Dr. Cupp, and Dr. Simmons for their care.

Those left to cherish his memory are his wife, Brenda; daughter Kim Taddeo and husband Steve; son James Smith; sisters and brothers-in-law Patricia Mitchell of Winston-Salem, NC, Carol & Larry Pulliam of Ardmore, OK, David Parker of Oologah-Claremore, OK, Jan Nell & Dennis Johnson of Henryetta, OK, and Francis Loder of Tulsa, OK; and several nieces and nephews.

He is preceded in death by his parents Ralph & Pauline Smith; sister Coralie Loder; in-laws that adored him Horace & Juanita Parker; and his brother-in-law Sam Parker.

Memorials may be given in his name to the SPCA in Bartlesville, OK or to the Animal Rescue Foundation (A. R. F.).

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Morgan Joseph Barlow Jr. - November 02, 1933 - April 20, 2022

Departed: 04/20/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Morgan Joseph Barlow Jr. of Bartlesville, OK passed away on April 20, 2022 at the age of 88.  He was born on November 2, 1933, at home in Wichita, Kansas to Julia Gaughn and Morgan J Barlow Sr.

Morgan was a dedicated and hard worker and proudly supported himself and helped his family from a young age.  He delivered newspapers, set pins in a bowling alley, worked at a service station (where he bootlegged beer), worked on family farms and at the packing house, all before graduating high school at Cathedral High School in Wichita.  Morgan’s varied employment history gave him fodder for many of his stories that he loved to tell.

Morgan was a member of the US Navy from 1952 until 1956 working in Aviation Electronics at the Hickman Air Force Base in Hawaii.  Morgan logged over 3300 hours flying and visited many islands and countries in Asia.  He loved Hawaii, the travel and all the different people and cultures he met while there.

After the Navy, he returned to Wichita and graduated from Kansas Newman College with a Bachelors degree in Mathematics.  Once again, he worked and supported himself through school unloading boxcars, tuning cars, driving an ambulance and wrecker, becoming a Seargent in Sheriff’s Reserve and eventually working for Boeing on B-52s.  After graduating college, he stayed with Boeing in their Data Processing area until 1979.  He moved to Bartlesville Ok to work for Phillips Petroleum in Project Management where he stayed until retirement.  Of course he did not stop working after retiring!  He was a contractor for a few years,  volunteered at Jane Philips Auxiliary and Concern Center for many years, and continued planning ‘projects’ any chance he got.

Morgan met the love of his life, Florence Mies, in Wichita and he happily married her in 1963.  They have resided in Bartlesville since 1979 where Florence remains.  He is also survived by his son David and wife Aniko of Yucaipa, CA; his daughter Cheryl and granddaughters Mia and Ani of Houston,TX and Oregon; his daughter Michelle of Okarche, OK and his sister Connie Dinda of Florida.

Morgan is preceded in death by his brothers Reggie, Vincent, Emmett, Michael, Daniel and sisters Patty and Mary Ellen.

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James Michael Caldwell - March 26, 1962 - April 15, 2022

Departed: 04/15/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: James Michael Caldwell passed away at his home in Tulsa April 15, 2022.  He was born on March 26, 1962

, in Mangum, Oklahoma to Jimmie and Reba (Buster) Caldwell.

Mike grew up and attended school in Claremore, OK.  He enjoyed Music and Friends.

He was preceded in death by his parents; Jim and Reba, wife; Teresa Lynn Caldwell, and two nephews; Quinton Willis and Richie Wilson.

He is survived by his daughter; Hannah Caldwell, two sisters; Teresa Priest and Martha Wormuth, 4 grandchildren; Roman, Daxton, Preston, Jade.

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Betty Marie Whistler - February 23, 1944 - March 28, 2022

Departed: 03/28/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Betty Marie Wigger Whistler, aged 78, passed away peacefully on March 28, 2022 in Bartlesville, Oklahoma. She was born on February 23, 1944 in West Palm Beach, Florida to A. G. “Fritz” Wigger and Mary Jeanette Crenshaw. She was a 1962 graduate of Nowata High School and married Doug Whistler in 1964. Beginning in the early 1970’s, Betty and Doug began teaching college and young marrieds Sunday School at First Baptist Church Bartlesville. She was passionate about teaching the personality temperaments. She contributed to the start of the Come Grow With Me Bible study that began in her home and continues to this day. Later in life, she and Doug taught multiple weekly home Bible studies. Betty was a Bible teacher who truly loved sharing the Word of God.

Betty was preceded in death by her husband and parents. She is survived by her daughter, Beth and husband Steve Beard, their children Kate Beard, Abby (Beard) Miles and Justin Miles, and Tom Beard; daughter, Becky and husband Steve Armstrong, their children Jack Armstrong, Ellen (Armstrong) Ford and Graham Ford; daughter, Barbara and husband John B. Kane, their children Jane (Dutcher) Bartley and Preston Bartley, Betsy Dutcher, John J. and Alicia Kane, Elizabeth (Kane) Wilson and Matt Wilson, and Caroline Kane; Great-grandchildren, Evie Jane Powell, Easton Bartley, Jack Bartley, Tripp Bartley, Natalie Kane, Johnny Kane and Charlie Kane.

Services will be held at 1:00 pm on Friday, April 1st at First Baptist Church Bartlesville. If you wish to honor Betty, financial donations can be made to Cornerstone Hospice, 501 E. 5th Street, Bartlesville, OK 74003. Services under the direction of Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home.

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Clayton James Gilbert - December 16, 1981 - March 28, 2022

Departed: 03/28/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Clayton James Gilbert, age 40, of Bartlesville, OK passed away Monday, March 28, 2022, at Oklahoma City’s Mercy Hospital.

Clayton was born December 16, 1981, at Tulsa, Oklahoma to Jimmie Lodean Gilbert and Dorothy Lynn (Sutton) Gilbert. He moved to Bartlesville at an early age and has been a resident ever since.  Clayton graduated from Bartlesville High School.  He enjoyed football, bowling, and music, as well as spending time with his family and friends.  Clayton was of the Christian faith and was a machinist, most recently for Oilfield Pipe & Supply of Dewey, Oklahoma.

Survivors include his mother, Lynn Sutton of Bartlesville; his fiancée, Cassandra “Cassie” Parks and her son, Michael, of Bartlesville; a sister, Christina Gilbert of Bartlesville; two nieces and a nephew.  He was preceded in death by his father, Jimmie, and by a sister, Kathryn Jones.

A memorial service will be held 2pm, Thursday, April 7, 2022, at the chapel of Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home with Pastor Steven Griffith, officiating.  Service and cremation are under the direction of Arnold Moore & Neeekamp Funeral Home.  To send an online condolence, visit www.honoringmemories.com.

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Patsy L. Whinery - February 17, 1931 - March 20, 2022

Departed: 03/20/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Patsy L. Whinery passed away Sunday March 20, 2022, in Barnsdall, Oklahoma.

She was born February 17, 1931, to Erva V. Horsley and Charlotte S. (Randolph) Horsley.

Patsy grew up and received her education in Avant, Oklahoma. Patsy married Albert Whinery in1949, in Bartlesville, Oklahoma. Albert passed away in 2007, and Patsy married Noel Hansen on June 16, 2014.

Patsy was a hard worker.  She enjoyed garage sales and being a grandma.  If you knew her, you called her “Grandma”.

She was survived by her husband Noel Hansen, grandchildren, Chance and Robin Hansen and his wife Janice, Jamie Reeves and her husband Justin Reeves, ten great-grandchildren, a plethora of great great grandchildren, nieces, nephews, and friends.

She was preceded in death by her parents; Erva and Charlotte Horsley, husband; Albert “Cracker” Leo Whinery, daughter; Shirley Edwards, grandson; Jay Hansen, great great granddaughter; Brooke Hansen, and all her siblings.

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Julia M. First - October 09, 1938 - March 19, 2022

Departed: 03/19/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Julia Margaret First (83) passed away Saturday, March 19, 2022, in Bartlesville, Oklahoma. Julia was born October 9th, 1938, in Kansas City, Missouri.

Julia graduated from Tulsa Will Rogers High School in 1956. She earned her Bachelor's degree in Elementary Education from William Jewel College in 1963 and a Master’s from Northeastern University in 1983.

Julia taught school in Kearney and Missouri City, Missouri, Ft. Worth Texas, and Bartlesville, Oklahoma. She retired after 38 years of teaching.

Julia continued to serve the community by volunteering at Jane Phillips for nearly two decades. She helped groups of touring school children learn about what happens in a hospital. The idea succeeded in reducing fear and anxiety when/if the children had to be hospitalized. When that program ended, she volunteered at the Bartlesville History Museum for many years. She also took on the role of a Meals On Wheels coordinator. She continued to fill this role until sickness prevented her from continuing in October 2021.

Julia was preceded in death by her mother, Margaret Withers Teague and her brother, Robert Addison Teague.

She is survived by her son; Anthony First and his wife, Libby of Bixby, Oklahoma, grandson; Joey First of Bixby, OK, and a granddaughter; Rachel First, also of Bixby, OK.

A memorial service will be held Friday, March 25, at 10:30 am in the First Presbyterian Church, Bartlesville, OK.

Services have been entrusted to Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home. Online condolences can be left at www.honoringmemories.com.

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Marie Eileen Hogan - February 17, 1923 - February 28, 2022

Departed: 02/28/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Funeral services for 99 year old Marie Eileen Hogan of Bartlesville, OK will be held March 5, 2022 at St. John’s Before the Latin Gate Catholic Church at 12:00 p.m. in Bartlesville, OK.  Marie will be laid to rest by her husband’s side in the Memorial Park Cemetery.

Marie was born near Algona, IA to Dominic and Margaret (Jennett) Malliet on February 17, 1923.  We assume her natural trail driving skills were developed early, being the eldest of three children raised on the family farm.

In October of 1943 she married Robert “Bob” Hogan; the love of her lifetime.  After Phillips Petroleum Co. reassigned Bob to Bartlesville, they decided to settle into a modest home and raise their family.  To this marriage three children were born; Jim Hogan, Bob Hogan and Mary Hogan.

Marie worked within the home as a wife and homemaker throughout her life.  She raised their children and efficiently handled the Hogan household until just seven weeks before her death.

Marie will always be remembered for her stubborn streak, and with that, her fierce strength. At 98, you couldn’t help but admire her independent resilience.  She was the center of the entire Hogan family and her absence will be immeasurable.

Marie led an enviable life.  She was an avid (and very competitive) Bridge player.  Later in life she gained an appreciation for the challenges of golf while the grandkids enjoyed access to the golf course pool.  She enjoyed many international adventures with Bob after his retirement from Phillips Petroleum Co. For years the pair enjoyed the relaxation of ballroom and line dancing lessons, and every Christmas she was blessed by the entire family reassembling in her living room to share family memories.

Marie passed peacefully surrounded by family at Saint Simeon’s Senior Living Community in Tulsa, OK on February 28, 2022.

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Sherrie Ann Bewley - February 24, 2022 - February 24, 2022

Departed: 02/24/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: An obituary is not available at this time for Sherrie Ann Bewley.

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Verl L. Leflore - June 25, 1958 - February 23, 2022

Departed: 02/23/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: VerI graduated from College High School,Bartlesville, OK in 1976. He attended Oklahoma State University Institution of Technology,Okmulgee, OK.) majoring in automotive technology from 1976-1977.

His hobbies included working on classic cars, weight lifting, baseball, motorcycling, golf and art. He worked at Phillips Petroleum Company; Bartlesville, OK from 1978 to 1991 as a lab technician and petroleum engineer at the Research Center. He served as a Deacon at Greater First Baptist Church until he was transferred to Houston, Texas in 1991 to continue his career. He worked for

ConocoPhillips there until he retired in 2016.

Verl loved his family and enjoyed spending time with his grandkids. Preceded in death by his parents Rena Bell and Billy Joe LeFlore, his brother Larry Gene LeFlore

and by his grandparents Leon Jones & Beatrice Pollard and LeRoy & Mary (Johnson) LeFlore.

Dear Brother of Charles LeFlore, Billy LeFlore Jr., and Garland LeFlore.

Former Husband of Tammy Mayhew-LeFlore.

Loving Father of Eric (Emily) LeFlore, Brian LeFlore, Ashley (Drake) Hines, Jared LeFlore, and Lindsey LeFlore; Step-father of Cameron Reed; Dear Grandfather of Ethan, Evan, and Elliana LeFlore, Coby, Jared, and Merci LeFlore and Ariel Bratt, Tyson Lecroy, Kane, and Khaleesi Hines; Great- Grandfather of Coby LeFlore Jr.

Dear Uncle, Cousin, and Friend.

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Dorothy Marie Adamson - October 27, 1923 - February 20, 2022

Departed: 02/20/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Dorothy Marie Adamson, 98, Dewey, OK, passed away Sunday morning, February 20, 2022, at Bartlesville Health and Rehab Center.

Dorothy was born October27, 1923 at Fawn Creek, Kansas to Andrew P. Jackson and Annie (Cody) Jackson.  She grew up in the Fawn Creek area and began her education, there.  Dorothy would graduate in May of 1942, from Lenapah High School, (Lenapah, Oklahoma). She married Deryl Adamson on December 14, 1942, at Nowata, Oklahoma. The couple moved to California, where her husband was stationed with the US Navy and upon his discharge, he took a job with Phillips Petroleum in Borger, Texas and the Adamson family moved to Texas.  They later moved to the Dewey area and purchased a dairy farm in 1954, operating it until 1959 and then moved east of Bartlesville.

Dorothy had worked as a receptionist/bookkeeper for several doctors and for Wheeler Chevrolet in Caney, Kansas.  She was a member of the Dewey First Christian Church and she enjoyed crocheting, sewing, cross-stitch and oil painting.

Survivors include one son, Ron Adamson and wife, Nancy of Dewey, Ok; one daughter, Kaye Thomas and husband, Larry of Collinsville, OK; three grandchildren, Dirk Thomas and wife, Lanita and Angela Holler and husband, Greg, all of Owasso, OK and Shylo Adamson of Portland, OR; six great-grandchildren and a special niece, Pat Shearhart and husband, Wayne of Big Cabin, OK.  She was preceded in death by her parents; by her husband, Deryl in 2010; by a son, Steven Cody Adamson in 1981 and by a sister, Una Storm.

Funeral service will be 2pm, Friday, February 25, 2022, at the Dewey First Christian Church with Pastor Don Elliott officiating. Interment will be in the Dewey Cemetery, under the direction of Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home.  Visitation will be 9am-8pm, Thursday with the family receiving guests at the funeral home from 6-8pm.  Those who wish may make a donation to Elder Care of Bartlesville or Compassus Hospice of Vinita, OK in memory of Dorothy.  To leave an online condolence, visit www.honoringmemories.com.

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Agnes Laverne Tucker - July 24, 1931 - February 18, 2022

Departed: 02/18/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Agnes (Griffith) Tucker lifetime resident of the Ramona area passed away February 18, 2022.  Agnes was born July 24, 1931 at her family home in Ramona to William and Della (Sizemore) Griffith.  Agnes played basketball for Ramona High School before graduating.

She was active in the Cherokee Home Demonstration Club, 4-H Club, and Ladies Missionary Society at the Romana Friends Church at which she was an 82-year member.  She worked for 10 years at Union Gas Co. in Ramona, retired in 1990. Agnes was known for her pecan pies, jellies, and sewing skills.

She is survived by her husband o 71 years; Fred Tucker, Daughters; Reba and Karen Dunn (Mark), brother; Arlie Griffith, 2 grandchildren, and 4 great grandchildren.

She loved to sing and listen to hymns of praise to her lord. Let us thank him that she’s with him now.

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Diane Elizabeth Potter - September 14, 1946 - February 15, 2022

Departed: 02/15/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Surrounded by her family, Diane Elizabeth Potter passed away peacefully on Tuesday, February

15th, 2022 at the age of 75. Born to Elmer Alvin Wattle Jr. and Eula “Faye” Viola (Johnson) Wattle on September 14, 1946, Diane was raised near Caruthersville, Missouri along with her two brothers Sonny and Scotty Wattle. She later met and married Denny Vern Potter on December 16th, 1971 in Claremore,

OK where together they raised 6 children. Diane excelled at all of her creative endeavors such as painting, drawing, photography, sewing, and stained glass to name just a few. But her greatest achievement was being a loving and supportive mother for her children and sometimes for the neighborhood kids as well. Her door was always open for a visit, good advice, and a glass of the best sweet tea that only she could

make. Diane was preceded in death by her parents Elmer and Faye, her husband Denny, her brother

Scotty, and one grandson, Quinton Willis. She was survived by her children Roger Willis (Zolly), Thomas Willis (Dana), Robert Willis (Pam), John Potter, Melissa Potthier, Joseph Potter, and many grandchildren, great

grandchildren, nieces, nephews, and friends.

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Sharon I. Wehmeyer - May 06, 1943 - February 13, 2022

Departed: 02/13/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Sharon I. Wehmeyer, age 78, passed peacefully into heaven on February 13th, 2022, with her husband by her side. She was a loving wife, mother, sister, aunt, grandmother, and friend. There was nothing on earth she cherished more than her family. Sharon spent her lifetime creating memories that will live on in her family’s hearts for generations. She was preceded in death by her parents Clara I. & Killis W. Jeter, Jr., and her sister Judy (Jeter) Skinner. She is survived by her devoted husband of 57 years, John Wehmeyer, and two sons and daughters-in-law, Doug and Katie Wehmeyer, Ken Wehmeyer and wife Sherrie Bollinger, her niece Tamsen (Skinner) Cole of Bartlesville, and four grandchildren Hayden, Mary, James, and Brooke & Kris Puga. Also surviving are her two siblings Killis Walton Jeter III & wife Eugenia and Juana Khan & husband Sal. Further survived by many nieces, nephews & cousins.

Sharon spent her life volunteering with the Bartlesville Public School system where she helped as a teacher’s aide, playground monitor, and was part of developing the after-school programs for elementary students. She also volunteered with her sons’ sports programs and always encouraged their passions in life. She never missed an opportunity to watch her grandchildren excel in their various sports, dance, gymnastics, and academics. Sharon enjoyed macrame, crocheting, sewing, baking, and gardening. All of which she taught and passed down to her children and grandchildren. She loved spending time at her family’s lake, fishing, reading, and watching her kids play. Sharon also enjoyed attending her annual family reunions where she could reconnect with extended family. In her retirement she delighted in listening to her husband’s music and traveling with him to various music festivals such as Hootin an Hollarin, Sunfest, OK Mozart, and various venues in Oklahoma and surrounding states.

Sharon was a lifetime member of The Order of Eastern Star, initiated in October of ’92 by her mother Clara. She had great admiration for her time with Eastern Star and held the friendships she made there close to her heart with many fond memories.  She was a member of the Bartlesville Chapter #142 and Nowata Sunrise Chapter #22. Sharon formerly served as Worthy Matron for both chapters and Grand Warder for the state of Oklahoma.

Sharon Wehmeyer left a great legacy of care and devotion to family and friends. This gentle, loving, caring and wonderful woman has left a permanent mark etched on our hearts. She will forever be remembered by the lives she touched and will be dearly missed.

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Edward Leroy Hawn - February 28, 1952 - February 13, 2022

Departed: 02/13/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Edward Leroy Hawn, 69, of Nowata, passed away Sunday, February 13, 2022, at St. Francis Hospital in Tulsa, Oklahoma.

Ed was born February28, 1952 at Caney, Kansas to Edward “Bud” Hawn and Betty (Adams) Hawn.  He grew up around the Caney & Sedan, Kansas area and later attended Copan Schools in Copan, Oklahoma.  Soon after high school, Ed began ranching and rodeoing and the proceeded to join the U.S. Army.  After his discharge from the Army, Ed started truck driving; a talent he utilized while in the military.  He drove for H&H Tank Truck and Rick’s Tank Truck Service.  Ed married Connie Endicott on August 11, 1978, at Yale, Oklahoma and the couple moved to Nowata in 1978.  While in Nowata, Ed worked for the Nowata Police Department, serving as Assistant Chief of Police and later as a deputy for the Nowata County Sheriff’s Department.  The Hawns moved to Pawnee, Oklahoma in 1982, and Ed tried his hand at ranching while also working for the Pawnee Police Department.  The Hawn family moved back to Nowata in the late 80s.

Ed loved dirt track racing and watching PBR and rodeo.  He loved his family; enjoyed his friendships and was well liked and respected by his peers.

Ed is survived by his wife, Connie of the home; three sons, Chris Hawn of Nowata, Brandon Hawn and wife, Katie of Skiatook, Oklahoma and Garret Hawn and wife, Jess of Nowata; one brother, Rick Hawn and wife, Judy of Copan; two sisters, Lucretia Gudenkauf and husband, Brian of Verdigris, Oklahoma, and Carol Cummings of Tulsa; six grandchildren, Ryker, Landon, Logan, Maci Jo, Maddie and Reagan Hawn; several nieces and nephews; other relatives and many friends.  Ed was preceded by his parents, Bud and Betty Hawn.

Funeral service will be 2pm, Friday, February 18, 2022, at Benjamin Funeral Chapel, Nowata with interment in Memorial Park Cemetery, under the direction of Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home in conjunction with Benjamin Funeral Service.  Visitation will be Thursday, 9am-8pm with the family receiving guests at Benjamin Funeral Service, from 6-8 pm.  To leave an online condolence, visit www.honoringmemories.com.

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Terry Ann Chandler - June 14, 1945 - February 09, 2022

Departed: 02/09/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Terry Ann Chandler, 76, of Bartlesville, Oklahoma, passed away at her home Wednesday morning, February 9, 2022.

Terry was born June 14, 1945, in Wichita Falls, Texas.  She grew up in Wichita Falls and graduated from high school, there.  Terry took a job as a nurse’s aide in the maternity ward of the hospital in Wichita Falls.  It was through her job that she met and later married, Craig Stuart Chandler, June 29, 1968.  Craig would accept a position with Phillips Petroleum Company and the couple moved to Bartlesville and made their home there ever since.  Craig would precede Terry in death on July 1, 2020.

While in Bartlesville, Terry enjoyed working in retail sales at Vandevers and Dillards.  She was a member of the Oak Park United Methodist Church.  Terry loved to crochet and knit and do acrylic painting.  She was also a self-published author of one book.  Terry was also known for her baking, especially her bubble bread and floor casserole.  She loved spending time with family and watching “Murder, She Wrote”.

Terry is survived by three daughters, Trudy Faulkner of Bartlesville, Sarah Pappan and husband, Will of Wynona, Oklahoma and Gwen Wright and husband, Jeremy, also of Bartlesville, as well as five grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. She was preceded in death by her husband, Craig Stuart Chandler; by her parents and her aunt that raised her.

Funeral service for Terry will be Tuesday, 1:30 p.m., February15, 2022 at the graveside of Ft. Gibson National Cemetery.  Visitation will be 9am-8pm, Monday at Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home with the family receiving guests from 6-8pm.  Service and interment under the direction of Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home.  To send an online condolence, visit www.honoringmemories.com.

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Jack Leroy Renfro - February 21, 1926 - February 09, 2022

Departed: 02/09/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Jack Leroy Renfro was born on February 21, 1926, to Joseph Walter and Myrtle (Lord) Renfro on the family farm in Big Cabin, Oklahoma. He passed from this life, Wednesday night, February 9, 2022, in Norman, Oklahoma and the age of 95.

After graduating from Big Cabin High School, Jack enlisted in the Army Air Corps and served from1944 to 1946.  After being discharged from the Army, Jack worked two years at the Goodrich Plant in Miami, OK.

In 1947, Jak met Bobie Brogden at the First Methodist Church in Big Cabin.  They were married on June 5, 1948, residing thereafter in Bartlesville, OK, where he worked for Phillips Petroleum Company in Bartlesville for 37 years in the computing department, retiring in 1985.  Together they had three daughters.

Jack was a kind man with a great sense of humor.  He always put others needs first.  Not only was he a caring husband and father; he was the best grandfather in the world.  Jack loved gardening, woodworking and spending time with his family.

He was predeceased by his parents; wife, Bobie; daughter, Pamela Hudson; grandson, Patrick Engleman; son-in-law, Steve Engleman; sister, Alberta McKay and brothers, Raymond, Harold, Bobby and Billy.

Jack is survived by daughters, Teresa Collins and husband, Mike and Jackie Engleman, both of Norman, OK; grandchildren, Erick Emerson of Durango, CO; Amber Emerson of Bixby, OK; Ryan Engleman and wife, Jennifer of Norman, OK; Hannah Garrett and husband, Cody of Bartlesville, OK; and great-grandchildren, James Ryan (JR) Engleman and Michaiah and Isla Garrett.

Funeral service will be held on Wednesday, February 16, 10 a.m. at the Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home with interment in Big Cabin Cemetery.  Services and interment are under the direction of Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home.  To send an online condolence, visit www.honoringmemories.com.

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Gilbert Loya, Jr. - October 18, 1931 - January 24, 2022

Departed: 01/24/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Gilbert Loya Jr., 90, passed away on January 24, 2022, surrounded by his beloved wife and daughters.

Gilbert (Gil) was born in El Paso, Texas on October 18, 1931 to Gilberto Sr. and Ramona (Quesada) Loya. He attended Ysleta High School, graduating in 1950 in the top 10 of his class. He was a member of the National Honor Society and National Art Honor Society. He was the quarterback on the football team.

He attended the Texas College of Mines (now University of Texas at El Paso) and graduated in 1954 with a Bachelor of Science degree in Metallurgical Engineering. He was active in the Sigma Gamma Epsilon Society and Alpha Phi Omega. He went through ROTC and was in the Army Reserve where he reached the rank of Captain. He also pitched for a semi pro baseball team, the Ysleta Aztecs where he was known as Lefty Loya.

After graduation he married Josephine (Josie) Nunez, of Socorro, Texas on May 29, 1955 at the Socorro Mission – La Purisima Catholic Church. They were married for 66 years and had three daughters, Cynthia, Patricia and Angela.

Later that year Gil and Josie moved to Bartlesville, Oklahoma, where he began his lifelong career with Phillips Petroleum Company. He started in the Metallurgical group and moved on to work in several different areas. When in the International Group he moved his family to Sydney, Australia and Caracas, Venezuela. Where they made lifelong friends. He returned to Bartlesville to work in Data Base Management and completed his career in Houston, Texas where he was the IT Manager for the Eastern Division.

While living in Bartlesville Gil and Josie also took on the challenge of restoring, as their home, the original Bartlesville Country Club, built in 1911. He loved that house, it was his special refuge for many years.

After 33 years Gil retired and joined Josie in her antique business. He refinished and restored antiques and they sold them at various antique shows. They belonged to the Washington County Antique & Collectibles Association and enjoyed spending time at Linger Longer in Dewey.

Gil loved to travel and had many opportunities throughout his life. As part of the Hispanic Energy Forum, he was invited to a White House luncheon in 1984 with President Ronald Reagan.  He also had the opportunity to travel to Greece, Singapore, New Zealand, Libya, Curacao, Norway, Columbia, Brazil, Ecuador, Peru, Panama, Guatemala, and Mexico. As part of the Jaycees he was a JCI ambassador to the Dominican Republic and Venezuela. For 25 years Gil and Josie traveled throughout the United States for a yearly reunion with a special group of friends from the Jaycees.

Gil served his church as a member of the Rosarians, Homebound Ministry and Knights of Columbus. Gil and Josie belong to a monthly gourmet group and a Friday night supper club. For many years Gil enjoyed his membership in a local investment club.

Gil is survived by his wife, Josie, his daughters Cindy Loya of Houston, Texas, Pat Thrower of Oklahoma City and Angela Copley and her husband Rik of Cedar Park, Texas, his grandchildren Mitch Thrower and wife Allison of Edmond, Oklahoma and Julianne Thrower of Plano, Texas. He is also survived by a special cousin Frank Loya of Ruidoso, New Mexico and many nieces and nephews.

He was preceded in death by his parents and his brother Elisario (Chayo) Loya and cousins Virginia Loy, Ruth Martinez and Bill Spann.

We are especially grateful to the healthcare workers we met at Elder Care, Ascension St. John Jane Phillips, Heritage Villa, St. Francis Hospital, Tulsa and to Juli Merciez, RN, BSN. We have a new appreciation for their hard work and dedication.

A friend described Gil as quiet, very intelligent, and at the same time friendly and outgoing with a great sense of humor. He will be greatly missed by those who knew and loved him.

Visitation will be held at Arnold Moore and Neekamp Funeral Home Sunday January 30 at 5:00 pm. The Rosary will follow at 6:00 pm. Mass will held at St John Before the Latin Gate Monday January 31 at 10:00 am. Interment will follow at Memorial Park Cemetery.

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John David Bergin - January 23, 1942 - January 23, 2022

Departed: 01/23/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: In the early morning hours of January 23, 2022 John “David” Bergin peacefully entered into eternal life on his eightieth birthday in Porter, Texas.

He was born in Davenport, Oklahoma on January 23, 1942 but most of his youth and early adult life was spent in Bartlesville, Oklahoma. He graduated from Bartlesville College High School in 1960. He then went on to attend Oklahoma State University and was a proud member of the Alpha Tau Omega Fraternity. David graduated from OSU in 1965 with a degree in business. He obtained a Masters of Business Administration degree from Tulsa University in 1970.

In 1971 he married Deborah Yarberry. After her untimely death he married Jennifer Castin in 1974 and they were married until her death in 2016.

David began working for Phillips Petroleum Company and after several years he and Jenny moved to Kingwood, Texas where they both lived the remainder of their lives. David primarily worked in the oil and gas industry although for several years he owned and operated a video rental store.

David was preceded in death by his father and mother, John and Jewell Bergin and by his two wives, Deborah and Jenny. David was survived by his sister-in-law and brother-in-law Kay and Bruce Winston of Edmond, Oklahoma, his niece Kimberly Paylor and her family of Arlington, Texas and nephew Kyle Winston and his family of Edmond, Oklahoma as well as a host of wonderful neighbors who treated him like family. David and Jenny did not have any children but during the course of their lifetime, by conservative measure, they were the owners of three dogs and no less than thirty-seven cats, cumulatively.

A graveside funeral service will be celebrated at Memorial Park Cemetery in Bartlesville, Oklahoma on Tuesday February 1, 2022 at 1:00pm. Reverend Susan Payne will be the officiant.

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Joel Crowley Esslinger - December 21, 1939 - January 23, 2022

Departed: 01/23/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: BARTLESVILLE — Joel Crowley Esslinger of Tallgrass Estates passed away Sunday, January 23, 2022, at The Journey Home as a result of congestive heart failure. He was 82.

Joel was born Dec. 21, 1939, in the Panama Canal Zone to Willian Houston Esslinger and Eileen Crowley Esslinger. He attended Canal Zone schools, graduating from Balboa High School and Canal Zone Junior College. He moved to Oklahoma in the 1960s to continue his education, studying at Oklahoma State and graduating from Northeastern State University in Tahlequah. Following graduation, he moved to Bartlesville to take a position with Phillips Petroleum. He retired from Phillips in the early 1990s.

Joel was a diehard New York Yankees fan and enjoyed following both college and professional sports teams. He was an avid coin and stamp collector as well as a history buff, a lover of music and member of a bowling league. He was an active member of St. John Before the Latin Gate Roman Catholic Church, where he served as sacristan, collections counter, lector and as a eucharistic minister and frequent volunteer. He also volunteered for many years in the diagnostic imaging department of Ascension St. John Jane Phillips Hospital, assisted its chaplain and had been honored as the hospital’s

volunteer of the month.

His memberships included the Knights of Columbus Council No. 1302 and the Panama Canal Society.

Joel was preceded in death by his parents and his brother and sister-in-law, Andrew D. and Phyllis Z. Esslinger of Sturbridge, Mass. He is survived by his sister Mary Esslinger of Washington, D.C., and two nieces, Ellen Esslinger Cooley of Watertown, Mass., and Amy Litman of Malden, Mass., as well as several cousins.

A Rosary service will be held Tuesday February 1, at 6:00 pm at St. John By The Latin Gate. Mass will be Wednesday February 2, at 12  pm at St. John By The Latin Gate Catholic Church.

Services have been entrusted to Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home. Online condolences can be left at www.honoringmemories.com.

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Michael Ladon Jackson - September 25, 1961 - January 19, 2022

Departed: 01/19/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: An obituary is not available at this time for Michael Ladon Jackson.

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Edra Belle Balentine - November 23, 1929 - January 14, 2022

Departed: 01/14/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Edra Belle Tinsley Balentine, 92, of Copan, Oklahoma, passed from this life January 14, 2022.

Edra was born November 23, 1929, to Claude H. Tinsley and Anna J. (Aduddell) Tinsley in El Reno, Oklahoma.  The family moved to Osage County in 1937.  She attended and graduated from Mound Valley School, north of Hominy, Oklahoma.  Edra then moved to Bartlesville, Oklahoma and worked at Phillips Petroleum Company.  She married T.J. Balentine in December 1947. She joined her husband with the United States Air Force in 1952.  Edra worked in Civil Service at that time.  Their first son, David H., was born in 1954 at the McCord Air Base, near Tacoma, Washington. They were transferred to Hill Air Force Base near Ogden, Utah, where their second son, Terry J. was born in 1955.  After T.J.’s honorable discharge from the Air Force, they returned to Bartlesville. Their third child, Vicki A., was born in 1959.  Edra was an excellent seamstress and enjoyed creating garments for her family.  She also did upholstery and made seat covers for their airplane.  Edra also learned to fly, along with her husband, T.J.  Her first solo flight was in Independence, Kansas in 1968 in a Cessna 150.

Survivors include her three children, David H. Balentine of Copan, Terry J. Balentine and wife, Jo of Bartlesville, and Vicki A. Balentine of Copan; five grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; other relatives and many friends.

Funeral service will be 11 a.m., Monday, January 24, 2022, at Word of Truth Fellowship, Bartlesville, with Pastor Jim Anderson, officiating.  Interment will be in Bartlesville Memorial Park Cemetery, under the direction of Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home. To leave an online condolence, visit www.honoringmemories.com.

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Anthony "Tony" Benjamin Puckett - May 30, 1963 - January 10, 2022

Departed: 01/10/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Anthony Benjamin “Tony” Puckett; 58; went to his heavenly home on January 10, 2022.

His devotion to his family and firm belief in God made him stronger and gave him peace during his life.

Tony was born to his late mother, June (Rickman) and living father, Ray Puckett on May 30, 1963, in Bartlesville, OK. He was a member of the church community in Dewey, OK, at the First Church of God. He graduated from Sooner High School in 1982 and was employed at National Zinc, ODOT, and for Paul’s Wrecker for many years. Tony knew and got to experience a lot of different roles throughout his lifetime.

Tony was blessed with many friends and family that loved him. He married Pat VanAtta on June 2, 1987, in Bartlesville and helped raise two children with patience, discipline, and humility. Lisa Mitchell (husband Justin Mitchell) and Jason VanAtta (wife Amy VanAtta). He loved fishing and hunting, especially with his grand kids and great grand kids. Tony showed his love mostly by giving and helping others.

Tony is survived by his ex-wife; Pat, two stepchildren; Lisa and Jason, grandchildren; Crystal, Johnathan, Cliffa, Joshua, and Jacob, nine great grandchildren; Colby, Chloee, Justice, Cadence, Gracelynn, Braxton, Adelynn, Kimber, and Carsten, three brothers; Brad, Tim, and Chris, three nephews; Jason, Bradley, and Ryan.

He was preceded in death by his mother; June, and nephew; Laren.

Tony would love for anyone to come celebrate his life and share with family and friends on Morch 19th at 10:00 am in the First Church of God in Dewey, OK. Pastor Monte Brunner will officiate the service. The family respectfully declined donations and flowers, but prayers and fond memories are gladly accepted.

Snacks and drinks will be served after the service for anyone that wants to stick around.

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Stephen Albert Laws - January 31, 1955 - January 03, 2022

Departed: 01/03/2022 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Stephen Albert Laws, 66, of Bartlesville, Oklahoma passed from this world on January 3, 2022.  Stephen was born on January 31, 1955 in Fulton, New York to Albert Charles Laws and Luella Mildred (Phelps) Laws.

A long-time employee of Leinbock Company and retired four years prior to his passing.  He loved hunting and fishing. He was an all-around outdoors man. He loved life to the fullest.  His favorite saying was “I’m not lazy, I just like doing nothing.” Which was not true at all.  He was always there if you needed a hand, a ride, or a shoulder to cry on. You could count on Stephen for almost anything.  He could fix it, build it, or tear it down.  He was one of the good guys.

He is preceded in death by his mother Mildred Laws, 3 brothers; Kevin Sanders, Dwayne Palmer, Chester Callen, and 1 sister; Beth Sanders.

He is survived by his father; Albert C. Laws, stepmother; Karlene Laws, daughter; Ashley, 3 sisters; Deborah Williams, Mindy Lectner, and Renee Cloud, 5 brothers; William Sanders, A. Charles Laws, Timothy Laws, Jeffery Laws, Richard Laws, and a many nieces, nephews, and friends that he dearly loved. “OK folks it’s raining too hard to work, let’s go fishing.”

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Alonzo Lavoy McCoy - January 18, 1933 - December 27, 2021

Departed: 12/27/2021 (Bartlesville)

Obituary Preview: Al McCoy, 88, passed away from this life on December 27, 2021.  He was born January 18, 1933, in Enid, Oklahoma to Paul and Grace McCoy.  In 1951, he married the love of his life, Betty (Kanady) McCoy.  The couple lived in Stillwater, Oklahoma most of their lives and then, Cushing, Oklahoma for 20 years.  Al served his country with the U.S. Army in the Korean War from 1953-1955.  Al was a painting contractor most of his life, working for numerous builders.  He donated his time painting several churches and homes and helping others any way that he could.  Al and Betty spent their retirement making great friends at their retirement communities and campgrounds in Oklahoma, Texas, and Missouri.  He was well known for his stories and humor.  They thoroughly enjoyed going to church, line dancing, traveling, and enjoying all their time with their friends and family.  Al was a very devoted husband, dad, papa, and GG (great grandpa).  He was always very active in his daughter’s and her husband's lives, whom he called his son.  He was always ready to teach someone how to line dance, fish, swim, or anything they wanted to learn.  He was also thirsty for knowledge and never stopped learning.  He was the most beautiful, kind, loving, hilarious man you have ever met.  Al loved his bride and family deeply.

Al accepted Christ as his Lord and Savior and was baptized April 28, 1949.  He dearly loved every he was around and the feeling was mutual.  He had a love for everything God made and appreciated the beauty of it all.  However, he never could quite comprehend how the Dollar Tree could make things for just a dollar.  Al was greeted at Heaven’s gate on December 27th by both parents, in-laws, maternal and paternal grandparents, brothers Johnny, Carl, and Rick McCoy, sisters Wand Toland and Pauline Harmon.  He leaves behind the absolute love of his life of 70 years, Betty McCoy; his loving daughter, Kathy Pippin and husband, Rodney of Bartlesville; granddaughters, Elizabeth Featherston and husband, James of Bartlesville and Jenni Lynn Anderson and her husband, Abraham Anderson of Asheville, North Carolina; great-grandkids, Kelly Jo Featherston of Bartlesville, London and Ash Anderson of Asheville; bonus son, Gary Goff of Cushing, Oklahoma; bonus son and daughter, Gary and Nancy Roberts of Tryon, OK; nieces, nephews and a host of family and friends.  He will be greatly missed by everyone who knew him.

There will not be a funeral service at this time.  Cremation arrangements are under the direction of Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home.  To send an online condolence, visit www.honoringmemories.com.

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We strongly believe in the personal touch when it comes to funeral services. Each life is unique and deserves to be celebrated in its own way. Our expert staff at Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home works closely with the bereaved to ensure that every funeral service reflects the personality and legacy of the deceased, whether that manifests by means of a traditional funeral, a memorial service, or something more personal and unconventional.

Experienced Staff at Your Service

The staff at Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home is composed of individuals experienced in all aspects of funeral planning and are well-versed in the traditions and customs of various faiths and cultures. We are here to guide you through every decision during this emotional time, from selecting the right casket or urn to choosing flowers and writing obituaries, right down to the finest detail. Our goal is to ease the burden of planning so that you can focus on remembering and honoring the life of your loved one.

Community Involvement and Support

We are more than just a funeral home; we are part of the Bartlesville community. Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home prides itself on our involvement and support of local activities and organizations. We grasp the importance of community, especially in times of loss, and consistently strive to contribute meaningfully and compassionately.

Planning Ahead for Peace of Mind

Though discussing or thinking about one's own funeral can be an uncomfortable topic, pre-planning is a responsible, caring act that can reduce stress for grieving loved ones. We can assist individuals and families in planning ahead, ensuring that wishes are respected and the process is as worry-free as possible. Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home offers pre-planning services that can encompass all aspects of a funeral, from venue selection to financial arrangements.

Honoring Veterans with Dignity

Veterans deserve special recognition for their service and sacrifice. At Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home, we understand the unique honors and procedures associated with a veteran's funeral service and provide comprehensive services that celebrate their dedication to our country. We work with families to arrange for military honors and ensure all eligible benefits are received.

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Loss often comes unexpectedly, and our professional staff is ready to assist you 24/7. Whether you need immediate assistance or have questions about our services, Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home is just a phone call away. Our commitment to you does not end with the funeral service; we provide ongoing support in the form of grief resources and counseling to help you through the difficult days, weeks, and months ahead.

Local Resources for Additional Support

The aftermath of losing a loved one can often leave individuals and families searching for additional support and assistance. We maintain a list of local resources within the Bartlesville area to help those in need find grief counseling, financial advice, and other services during this trying period.

Reach Out to Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home

If you have the need for our services or simply have questions about what we can offer, please do not hesitate to reach out. The Arnold Moore & Neekamp Funeral Home staff honors the opportunity to provide you with dignified services that pay homage to the lives of you and your loved ones. Contact us at our Bartlesville location to speak to one of our caring professionals. We are here to support you through every step of this life's final journey.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is an obituary?

An obituary is a notice of a person's death, commonly published in a newspaper or online, that provides a brief account of their life, family, significant achievements, and information about the funeral or memorial services.

Why are obituaries important?

Obituaries serve an important role in honoring the deceased, informing the community and extended family members about the death, and providing closure for those grieving. They also serve as a historical record for future generations.

Who typically writes an obituary?

Obituaries are often written by close family members or friends, sometimes with the assistance of a funeral director. However, newspaper staff or professional obituary writers can also be commissioned to write one.

What information should be included in an obituary?

Obituaries typically include the full name of the deceased, date of birth and death, a brief overview of their life, achievements, surviving family members, and details about the funeral or memorial service.

How long should an obituary be?

The length of an obituary can vary widely. It could be a brief death notice with just the essential details, or a longer piece that goes into depth about the person's life, typically between 200 and 500 words.

Can an obituary include a photograph?

Yes, many obituaries include a photograph of the deceased. This can be a recent photograph or one from a significant time in their life.

Where are obituaries published?

Obituaries are commonly published in local and national newspapers, online obituary websites, social media, and sometimes in professional or trade publications.

How do you submit an obituary to a newspaper?

To submit an obituary to a newspaper, contact the newspaper's obituary department for guidelines, including deadlines, length restrictions, and costs. Many newspapers also provide online submission forms.

Is there a cost to publish an obituary?

Yes, most newspapers and some online services charge a fee to publish an obituary, which can vary based on length, publication circulation, and inclusion of a photograph.

What is the difference between an obituary and a death notice?

A death notice is a shorter, more formal announcement of a person's death, often limited to essential details such as name, age, and information on the funeral services. An obituary is more detailed and includes biographical information and personal tributes.

Are obituaries fact-checked?

Obituaries submitted by family members are generally taken at face value by newspapers and may not be extensively fact-checked. It is crucial to provide accurate information to maintain credibility and respect.

What if the deceased didn't want an obituary?

Respecting the wishes of the deceased is important; however, obituaries also serve the community and the grieving process. In such cases, a compromise might be a simple death notice or a private obituary distributed among friends and family.

Can an obituary be corrected after publication?

Corrections can be made if errors are found after publication, but this may incur additional costs or difficulties. It is essential to proofread the obituary carefully before submission to prevent errors.

Is it necessary to list the cause of death?

Listing the cause of death is optional and a personal choice. Some families prefer to be open about it, especially if it's related to a public health issue, while others choose to keep it private.

What can be done to prevent errors in obituaries?

To prevent errors, carefully review all details, have someone else proofread the obituary, and double-check facts such as dates and names. It’s also advisable to follow any submission guidelines provided by the publication.

How do families handle disagreements on the obituary's content?

Families should discuss the obituary content together to reach a consensus that respects the deceased's life and legacy while considering the feelings of all involved. Mediation by a neutral third party, like a funeral director, may help in some situations.

Should an obituary mention charitable donations?

If the family prefers charitable donations over flowers, this can be mentioned in the obituary along with the preferred charity's details. This is a common way to honor the deceased's legacy or support a cause they cared about.

What should be done with online profiles after someone’s death?

Online profiles may need to be managed after someone's death. Platforms like Facebook offer options for memorializing accounts, while some may prefer to have the account deactivated. It's important to follow the terms of service for each platform.

Can obituaries be humorous or unconventional?

Yes, the tone of an obituary can reflect the personality of the deceased. Humorous and unconventional obituaries are not uncommon, but they should still be composed with respect and consideration for the audience.

How can an obituary help in the grieving process?

Writing an obituary can be therapeutic. It provides a structured way to reflect on a loved one's life, achievements, and the impact they had on others. It can also elicit support from the community, which can be comforting during grief.

What are some common traditions or cultural considerations in obituaries?

Traditions and cultural considerations can influence the content and tone of an obituary. This may include religious references, honors, rituals, or specific language that are important to the deceased’s cultural or ethnic background.

How soon after death should an obituary be published?

The timing for publishing an obituary can vary, but it is typically done within a week of the death to allow time for friends and extended family to make arrangements to attend services. However, timelines can differ based on cultural customs or family preferences.