Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home Obituaries

Introduction to Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home

Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home, located at 414 NW Third Street, Abilene, KS, 67410, has been a trusted and compassionate provider of funeral services to the Abilene community for many years. As a family-owned and operated funeral home, they understand the importance of personalized care and attention to detail during a difficult time. Their commitment to excellence and dedication to helping families say goodbye with dignity and respect have earned them a reputation as one of the most respected funeral homes in the area.

A Brief History of Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home

The story of Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home began many years ago, when a group of dedicated individuals came together to provide a vital service to their community. Over the years, the funeral home has evolved to meet the changing needs of the families they serve, while remaining true to their core values of compassion, integrity, and excellence. Today, Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home is a proud member of the Abilene community, with a rich history and a deep understanding of the local culture.

Funeral Obiturary Search

Explore our extensive database to find and remember the lives of loved ones through millions of heartfelt obituaries

Search

Recent Funeral Home Obituaries

Janice Brungardt - December 28, 1942 - May 23, 2024

Departed: 05/23/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: An obituary is not available at this time for Janice Brungardt.

View Full Obituary

Sharon E Rosalez - February 08, 1942 - May 22, 2024

Departed: 05/22/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: An obituary is not available at this time for Sharon E Rosalez.

View Full Obituary

Betty H Grant - November 30, 1925 - May 20, 2024

Departed: 05/20/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: An obituary is not available at this time for Betty H Grant.

View Full Obituary

Sandra J Rector - September 20, 1942 - May 14, 2024

Departed: 05/14/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Sandra J. Rector was born September 20, 1942 in Abilene the daughter of Paul and Helen (Mustard) Harrold. She passed away Tuesday, May 14, 2024 at the Village Manor Nursing Home in Abilene.

Sandra was an Administrative Assistant in the corporate office of Duckwall/Alco in Abilene for many years before retiring.

Sandra enjoyed metal detecting, rock hunting, taking drives around Milford Lake, and had an appreciation for art.

On October 1, 1961 she was united in marriage to William D. Rector. He preceded her in death.

Survivors include her son Scott Rector and his wife Shanna of Salina.

Graveside services for Sandra will be 10:00 am Wednesday, May 22, 2024 at the Abilene Cemetery. Memorial contributions may be made to the donor’s choice and may be sent in care of the Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home, 414 NW 3rd, Abilene, Kansas 67410.

View Full Obituary

Mollie Zook - Unknown - May 14, 2024

Departed: 05/14/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Mollie Ann (Pool) Zook, 83, passed on to her eternal home May 14th 2024. The youngest of her siblings born to John and Melissa (Gilbert) Pool on Rattle Snake Ranch in New Mexico on April 13th 1941. She grew up in Grand Junction, Colorado. Where she picked peaches in the groves.

Mollie enjoyed collecting beanie babies, reading, and coin collecting. Mollie also enjoyed spending time with her grand kids and capturing them as they grew. She loved her family more than anything, and treasured her role of wife, mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother foster mother.

Always having a tender heart towards the Lord, Mollie understood the plan of salvation and gave her heart and life to Jesus at a young age. She endeavored to live a dedicated Godly life for her savior. Mollie was an active member of the Brethren in Christ Church until her passing. Mollie and Lyle were married December 4, 1964.

In 1966 Mollie and Lyle came to Kansas to farm and raise turkeys in partnership with his father. That same year they became the parents of Karen Joy. Two years later son Kenneth John joined the family on Christmas day. From 1973 until 2009 she, with Lyle, were foster parents to over 120 children - some for a day, but most for months to years. Regardless of the time spent in their home, each child was important and loved.

Mollie is preceded in death by her Husband Lyle Zook, parents John and Melissa Pool, brother Robert Dyer, Sister Polly Smith, great grandson Harding Shumate, She is survived by her children Karen (Mike) Corl and Kenneth (Ronda) Zook; Grandchildren, Jeffrey Zook, Allie Zook, Jason Zook, Andrea (Darrin) Shumate, Janessa Zook, Levi Zook, Andrew Corl (David), Aaron (Jesse) Corl, Anna (J.T.) Brantley, Abigail Corl; and great grandchildren Hadlee and Hazel Shumate, Easton Zook, and J.L. and Allyssa Brantley.

View Full Obituary

Darlene L Pargman - January 02, 1939 - May 13, 2024

Departed: 05/13/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Darlene Pargman, beloved wife, mother, grandmother, and friend, passed away peacefully on May 13, 2024, at the age of 85. She was surrounded by her loving family as she transitioned into eternal peace.

Darlene was born on January 2, 1939, in Burlingame, Kansas, to Ansel Watson and Iva Seaman. From a young age, she exhibited a zest for life and a compassionate spirit that would define her character in the years to come. She grew up in Brewster, Kansas, where she formed lifelong friendships and cherished memories.

Darlene was united to Jack Pargman on June 16, 1957, in Brewster, Kansas. Darlene was a devoted mother to her children, Julie Seymour, Jack Pargman, and John Pargman. She poured her heart and soul into raising them, instilling in them the values of kindness, integrity, and perseverance. Her children were her greatest joy, and she took immense pride in their accomplishments and milestones.

As a grandmother, Darlene was delighted to have the opportunity to spoil her grandchildren with love and affection. She cherished every moment spent with them, creating lasting memories they will always carry with them. Darlene’s favorite pastime was watching sports, especially those her grandkids were participating in, putting together puzzles, and ultimately spending time with those closest to her.

Darlene will be remembered for her warm smile, infectious laughter, and unwavering kindness. She had a heart of gold and a generous spirit, always willing to lend a helping hand to those in need. Her presence brought comfort and joy to all who knew her, and her legacy of love will continue to live on in the hearts of those she touched.

In addition to her loving family, Darlene is survived by John and wife Katy Watson, California; Wanda and husband Jerry Brewer Washington; Iris and husband Eugene Fincher, Colorado; Gary and wife Cheri Watson, Missouri; Dolores and husband Chris Quinones, Colorado. She was a beloved grandmother to nine grandchildren, twenty-eight great-grandchildren, five great-great-grandchildren, and dear friends who will miss her.

She was preceded in death by her parents, brothers Jerry, Tom, and Gale.

Darlene Pargman will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing her. May she rest in peace, knowing she was loved beyond measure and that her memory will forever be cherished. The family will be holding a celebration of life memorial at Grand Lake in Colorado on August 10, 2024.

View Full Obituary

Benjamin Anguiano - February 13, 1941 - May 07, 2024

Departed: 05/07/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview:

View Full Obituary

John Higgins - Unknown - May 03, 2024

Departed: 05/03/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: John H. Higgins was born January 4, 1941 in Trenton, Missouri, the son of Howard and Urania (Klingensmith) Higgins. John departed this world on Friday, at his home, in Abilene Kansas at the age of 83 years.

John graduated from Princeton High School in Princeton Missouri and was engaged in farming up until his marriage to Hope Layne on October 2, 1960 in Trenton, Missouri. Following his marriage, John pursued the marketing field and. In 1973 joined the American Greeting Card Corporation - Cleveland, Ohio. John and Hope moved to Indianapolis, Indiana where John was a Zone Manager. While there he was chosen Salesman of the Year. In 1980 John made the decision to move back to Kansas to be nearer to his family. After moving back to Kansas, John covered the entire western part of Kansas with his territory until his retirement in 2003, retiring with honors, making many friends and business acquaintances along the way.

John was a family man who enjoyed hunting, history, gardening and reading. John was very devoted to his Masonic Lodge and participated in many of their fundraisers. He gave back to the Masonic Lodge by donating flooring and carpeting to the local lodge in Abilene. He is survived by his loving wife of 63 years, Hope Higgins, daughter, Jeanette L. Parker of Wichita, sons John W. Higgins of Abilene, Joseph Higgins and his wife Courtney of Topeka and Jeffrey Higgins and his wife, Veronica, of Abilene, eight grandchildren and two great grandchildren. He was preceded in death by his parents, two grandchildren and his brother and

sister.

Services will be at the Martin-Becker Carlson Funeral Home with Pastor Roger Walls officiating. His final resting place will be in the family mausoleum at the Abilene Cemetery with Masonic Honors. The family will receive friends from 9:00 am-service time Wednesday at the funeral home. Memorial contributions made be made at the First United Methodist Church or to the Masonic Lodge and may be sent in care of the Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home, 414 NW3 rd , Abilene, Kansas 67410.

View Full Obituary

Betty J Seibel - May 31, 1927 - April 18, 2024

Departed: 04/18/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Betty Seibel passed away at Village Manor on April 18, 2024. She was born on May 31,1927, Abilene, Kansas to Ralph and Mary (Daniels) Stillie. Her childhood was spent in Abilene where she attended local schools graduating from Abilene High School in 1946. She married the love of her life, Lloyd Seibel, on February 16, 1947,in the First Baptist Church. Shortly after marriage the couple moved close to Lloyd’s brother in California, where they lived most of their married life. She and Lloyd enjoyed traveling including many trips to Las Vegas, sightseeing in the US, Canada and Europe. Betty worked for Pacific Telephone Company, retiring after 34 years.

After her husband’s death, and being away more than 40 years, she moved back to Abilene. She is preceded in death by her husband, Lloyd; brother, Andrew; sisters Phillis, Marie and Lois; cousins Helen Farley and Leonard Daniels. She is survived by her son Charles and wife Maria of Palm Springs, California and her life long friend, Gayle Dautel of Wichita. Betty has chosen cremation and burial at the Zion Cemetery. No service is planned at this time. Memorials may be sent to Hospice of Dickinson County or the charity of your choice and may be sent in care of Martin Becker Carlson Funeral Home 414 NW 3rd Street Abilene, Ks 67410

View Full Obituary

Denise Louise McCullough - March 30, 1957 - April 16, 2024

Departed: 04/16/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: An obituary is not available at this time for Denise Louise McCullough.

View Full Obituary

Toastie Racy - December 14, 1943 - April 12, 2024

Departed: 04/12/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Toastie Racy was born December 14, 1943, in Saginaw, Michigan, and departed this life on April 12, 2024, at her home in Abilene, Kansas. Toastie was the oldest daughter of Edward and Bette (Ryan) Blewitt. She grew up in the Topeka area, attended the local schools, and graduated from Hayden High School. She attended the University of Kansas. On November 23, 1963, she was united in marriage with Melvin Racy in Lawrence, Kansas. Mel and Toastie called Lawrence their home until the summer of 1978, when the family moved to Abilene, Kansas.

A kind and loving wife, mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother, Toastie was devoted to her faith and committed to her family. Toastie is survived by her two sons Mike (Kathy) of Riverside, Missouri and Kip of Stillwater, Oklahoma; three daughters, RaeLyn of Argyle, Texas, Kelly Jones (Chris) of Beatrice, Nebraska, and Kim Funston (Heath) of Abilene, Kansas. She is also survived by 17 grandchildren and 7 great-grandchildren: a sister Teri Hatfield (Larry) of Lawrence, Kansas, and Tip Ryan (Jenny) of Park City, Utah. Toastie was preceded in death by her husband Mel, her mother Bette, her father Edward, her brother Daniel, and her niece Matti.

Toastie loved her faith, her family, and her friends. When she wasn’t at an Abilene ball game or a church or school activity, she was often traveling to see family or to be with friends. There will be a Rosary prayed for Toastie at 5:30 p.m. on Friday, April 19th at St. Andrews Catholic Church in Abilene, Kansas. The Family will receive friends immediately following the prayer service next door at the Parish Hall. Mass of Christina Burial for Toastie will be at 10:30 a.m. on Saturday, April 20th, 2024, at St. Andrews Catholic Church. Burial will follow at Mount Saint Joseph Cemetery. Memorial Contributions may be made to St. Andrews Catholic Church or, to the Toastie Racy Scholarship Fund to be awarded to an Abilene High School Senior. Memorial gifts may be sent in care of the Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home, 414 NW 3rd Street, Abilene, Kansas, 67410. Condolences may be sent to the family at www.martinbeckercarlson.com

View Full Obituary

Etta Bethe - August 07, 1934 - April 11, 2024

Departed: 04/11/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Elaine Williams Bethe, born Etta Elaine Perry on August 7, 1934, in Junction City, Kansas, passed away on April 11, 2024, in Abilene, Kansas, at the age of 89. She was married to Conley Williams on February 11, 1950. To this marriage were born 5 children. They later divorced and Elaine married Donald Bethe on May 13, 1989. She was the matriarch of her immediate and extended family. Her greatest joy was raising her family and watching them spread their wings as they went out into the world.

Elaine, a graduate of Brown-Mackey Business College, had a successful career as the executive secretary at Great Plains Insurance Company in Salina, Kansas, until her retirement. She was a dedicated member of Carlton First Presbyterian and New Basel United Church of Christ places of worship.

She loved to swim, and watch her kids and grand children play sports. Later, she spent time at the lake fishing and who could forget all the nights playing pinochle and bridge. In her free time, Elaine enjoyed sewing, quilting, reading, watching sports, and raising her five children. She will be remembered for her love of family and her nurturing spirit.

Elaine is survived by her children: Walt (Kathy) Williams of Wilton, IA, JoLane (Charles) Poindexter of Roanoke, Virginia, Richard (Kimberly) Williams of Bangs, TX, Vona (Terry) Schwarz of Carlton, KS, Keith (Marla) Williams of Bangs, TX, along with 15 grandchildren and 28 great-grandchildren. Surviving step children are Candy (Will) Green of Hutchinson, KS, Mark (Holly) Bethe of Hope, KS., 6 step grandchildren, and 9 step great grandchildren. She was preceded in death by her parents, two husbands, Conley Williams and Don Bethe, five siblings and stepson Alan Bethe.

View Full Obituary

Ruth E Phillips - June 15, 1927 - April 09, 2024

Departed: 04/09/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Ruth Eileen Phillips, 96, passed away April 9th at The Village Manor, Abilene, KS.

She was born June 15, 1927, on a farm in the Gypsum community, to Roy A. and Velma (Beetch) Woods.

After the sudden accidental death of her father in 1932, the family was moved to the Carlton community. She attended the local school and graduated from Abilene High School with the class of 1945. She worked for the American Telephone Company upon graduation.

On May 7th, 1950, she was united in marriage with Dale Walter Phillips in the Carlton Presbyterian Church. To this union three children were born. Dalene Marie, Steven Leroy, and Gerald Duane.

Most of their married life was spent in the Carlton area.

She took over the farm as her husband’s health failed, and she also served as a receptionist at Brown Memorial Home later in her life and volunteered with Hospice.

The two most important things in her life were her family and her church, where she was an active lifelong member.

While she would have loved to have had her children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren live closer, she was proud of the achievements they made as productive citizens and in their business careers.

She is survived by her daughter Dalene Judd, Hayward, WI, her son Jerry and his wife Jean, Austin, TX, and her daughter in law, Sharon Phillips Dowell, Knoxville, TN. She is survived by 6 grandchildren and 14 great grandchildren.

She was preceded in death by her husband Dale, son Steve, her parents, her sister Elsie Viola, sister Rose Michau, and brother Carl.

Services are at Martin-Becker-Carlson funeral home, with the viewing and visitation on April 12th from 5:00-7:00pm and the funeral service at the funeral home at 10:30 on Saturday, April 13th. Burial will follow in the Woodlawn Cemetery outside of Carlton.

View Full Obituary

Christina Savery - August 22, 1967 - April 09, 2024

Departed: 04/09/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Christina (Chris) Marie Savery, 56, of Abilene passed away on Tuesday, April 9, 2024, at home.

She was born on August 22, 1967, in Abilene, KS, the daughter of John and Maggie Brunner. She grew up in Abilene and enjoyed playing softball and hanging out with her family and friends.

She worked for Great Plains Manufacturing for 15 years. Chris enjoyed spending time with her seven grandchildren and watching her favorite sports teams; the Jayhawks, Chiefs, and Royals.

Chris is survived by her two sons Travis (and Hannah) Savery of Abilene, Tyler (and Heather) Savery of Salina; seven grandchildren: Houston, Henry, Hudson, Emmett, Isaac, Simon, and Nora Savery.

She was preceded in death by her husband Jeff Savery, parents John and Maggie Brunner, brothers Richard, Roger, and Bob Brunner, and sister Debbie Parks.

There will be a visitation on Thursday, April 18 from 5-7 p.m. at the Carlson Becker funeral home in Abilene, KS. A graveside service will be held on April 19 at 2 p.m. at the Hope, KS cemetery.

View Full Obituary

Joan B Danner - Unknown - April 08, 2024

Departed: 04/08/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Joan B. Danner (Joanie) was born June 21, 1937 to parents Owen Love Gallaher and Sylvia B. Gallaher (Salmons) in Winningkoff, Texas. Winningkoff was a magical place for Joanie, as her grandfather, Lee Gallaher, owned a farm there and she spent many happy times at his home. She and her cousin, Jimmy, spent their days riding horses without a saddle and cooking potatoes on a fire they set up down by the always ice cold spring, enjoying times when friends and family would gather for music where many of the attendees would play the piano, guitars, banjoes, fiddles, etc. and just have a fun, musical evening. It truly was a magical place that even many years later, she would think of with much love and happiness. Joanie’s father, Owen, died when she was five and her older brother, Love, was 10. Joanie went to her first year of school at the country, two-room schoolhouse that her grandfather, Lee Gallaher, helped build years before. Joanie had a younger sister, Sandra Kay, and along with brother, Love, and mother, Sylvia, they settled in Plano, Texas and Joanie completed her schooling in Plano graduating from high school in 1956 in a class of 52. Plano had a population of just over 2000 and was a sleepy, Mayberry-type of great place to grow up. Plano now has a population of 285,500. Joanie was a majorette for four years and loved marching each year in the annual Cotton Bowl football game parade. She was a class officer all four years of high school. Joanie worked at the local newspaper as the high school reporter and wrote up articles about the student activities and sports.

After high school, Joanie attended TWU (Texas Woman’s University) in Denton, Texas, majoring in art and journalism. Joanie then went to work at the Earle M. Jorgensen Steel Company, where she was the Inside Sales secretary for seven salesmen. She later worked at Pontiac Motor Division of General Motors and was the Assistant Zone Manager’s secretary, and also operated one of the very first key punch machines for ordering cars for the Pontiac Dealers. While living in Dallas, Joanie was asked to be one of the models for the Clifton Wilhite Company, which designed ball gowns and evening wear sold all over America.

August 18, 1962 Joanie was united in marriage to Richard Danner. They left Dallas and moved to Topeka, Kansas, where Richard finished up his college degree and Joanie worked as the first secretary for the White Lakes Mall Shopping Center, which was just getting tenants and beginning construction. They moved back to Abilene and Richard joined his father, Ray, in operating the Danner Funeral Home. Joanie worked as secretary to Principal George Madelen at Abilene High School and later was secretary to Bob Pierce at the Duckwall Stores, later to be known as ALCO. Richard and Joanie divorced in 1983. To this marriage, two daughters were born, Angela Kay Danner and Amy Rae (Danner) Flinn.

Joanie loved entertaining and had many dinner parties and enjoyed making delicious meals for her friends. Her favorite thing to do was go to antique sales all over town and surrounding country auctions. She refinished over 30 pieces of furniture and loved going to her furniture refinishing class. During these years, Joanie also started a new hobby of painting in oils and acrylics. Over the years, Joanie belonged to many organizations which included Junior Thursday Study Club in Texas, Jaycee Jaynes, Abilene Country Club, Junior League, Gourmet Club, Birthday Club, Buckeye Saddle Club, Beta Sigma Phi, and 4H Cooking Teacher. Joanie designed every inch of her beautiful home, Windy Hill Farm, and she loved being there so very much. Joanie also loved gardening, and her favorite flower was roses of all kinds. She had many rose bushes, which gave her great joy.

Joanie worked at the Topeka, Kansas Police Department, Records Division, for seven years as a Senior Records Clerk and seven years as a Supervisor in Records. Joanie retired from this job in August 2001 and moved back to Abilene.

Joanie loved playing with her three grandchildren, Landon Flinn and twins Millie and Jimmy Danner-Homer, and she became quite the lover of children once they were born. She had been a curmudgeon about children until they came along, and all of a sudden, children were wonderful! Joanie is preceded in death by her parents, Owen L. Gallaher Sr, Sylvia B. Gallaher Wims and Weldon Wims, brother Owen Love Jr, nephews John Owen and Darryl Gallaher, and niece Cheryl Scovill. She is survived by daughters, Angela Kay Danner and Amy Rae Flinn (Steve), her grandchildren, Landon Flinn, Millie Danner-Homer, and Jimmy Danner-Homer, sister Kay and husband James Christopher, niece Karen Caramela and husband Jon Phenicie, and great niece Morgan Jenson, sister-in-law Beatrice Gallaher, nieces Beth Ann Gallaher, Brenda and husband Dennis Hozak, great nephew Brandon Hozak, and nephew Bryan Gallaher.

In her later years, Joanie had many health issues and her life became very different, as she could not get around without a rollator, so the once very lively lady became very much a stay at home person. During this time, she spent many happy hours creating beautiful scrapbooks for her daughters and grandchildren that they will cherish forever. She especially enjoyed spending time with Angela and the twins in Kansas City and with Amy and her family in St. George, KS.

Cremation has been chosen and Joanie requested that no services be held. Joanie loved her family and friends, and she would wish each one to remember at least one happy time they had spent with her and keep her in their memories. Memorials may be made in Joanie’s memory to the Abilene Public Library in care of Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home, Abilene, KS.

View Full Obituary

Robin Anne Riat - February 11, 1970 - April 08, 2024

Departed: 04/08/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Robin Anne Riat, 54, of Belton, Missouri, passed away April 8, 2024, after a short illness. She was born on February 11, 1970, in Abilene, Kansas, the daughter of Marilyn Kay Copeland Riat and Lawrence Dean Riat. She grew up in Abilene and graduated from Abilene High School with the class of 1988. She earned an undergraduate degree from William Jewell College in Liberty, Missouri, a master’s degree from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, a master’s degree from Friends University in Wichita, Kansas, and was pursuing a degree from Quinnipiac University in Hamden, Connecticut.

She worked as a librarian for universities, private companies, and government agencies and most recently worked as a records management analyst, trainer and instructional developer for the U.S. National Archives and Records Administration in Kansas City, Missouri.

Robin enjoyed genealogy and family history and compiled an online index to early 20th century newspapers from Skidmore, Missouri, her mother’s hometown. She also enjoyed reading, music, feeding the birds and squirrels, visiting with friends, and caring for cats, including Maggie, Cleo, and most recently, Millie.

She is survived by her father, Larry Riat of Chapman, Kansas; her aunt Lois (Charles) Deyoe of Manhattan, Kansas, her aunt Linda (Bill) Crutcher of Stillwater, Oklahoma, her aunt Patricia Copeland of Noblesville, Indiana, and her uncle Herb Anderson of Glen Ellyn, Illinois, her uncle Robert D. Riat of Wamego, Kansas. She is also survived by her cousin, Ann Copeland of Las Vegas, Nevada; her cousin, Lea (Scott) Bishop of Carmel, Indiana and children Matthew of Zionsville, Indiana and Morgan of Cary, North Carolina; her cousin David (Marsha) Copeland of Excelsior Springs, Missouri, and many friends.

She was preceded in death by her mother, Marilyn Copeland Riat, and her aunt Margaret Copeland Anderson. Her uncle, Mervyn “Mickey” Copeland also passed away April 8, 2024. Graveside services are planned for Saturday, April 20, 2024 at 11:00 am at the Abilene Cemetery near her mother. Memorial contributions may be made to the Abilene High School Endowment Association and may be sent in care of the Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home, 414 NW 3rd, Abilene, Kansas 67410. Condolences may be sent to the family at www.martinbeckercarlson.com

View Full Obituary

Ralph H Viola - March 21, 1928 - March 31, 2024

Departed: 03/31/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Ralph passed on Easter morning and our goodbyes are with the solar eclipse. Ralph just celebrated his 96th year. Born in Abilene, March 21, 1928 to Vernon and Ozetta (Shetron) Viola. The middle of 5 children. If you see a Viola store due bill coin, that is Ralph at age 5 printed on it. As a young teen, he delivered telegrams and once delivered birthday greetings from President Roosevelt to Eisenhower’s mother. He was treasurer of his 1948 Abilene class. Graduating from Kansas State University, he later earned his Master’s in Business. Ralph retired from Boeing after 45+ years.

Ralph met wife Marian Nagely in college when she asked him to a Sadie Hawkins dance. They started their adventures together in May 1950. Enjoying 53 years traveling, living in 5 states, 5 years in Tehran, Iran, 2 years in Montreal. Traveled through all 50 states, all Canadian Provinces, 34 countries and US territories.

After Marian’s death in 2003. Ralph returned to Abilene and married Avis (Clark) Wells. Introducing her travel for 10 years until her death in 2013.

He crossed the equator, the Arctic Circle, drove thru Alaska-Cascade Hwy, made a trip around the world and flew on 45+ air carriers. He parachuted, went up in air balloons, helicopters and multiple different aircraft. Ralph served in the Army and the Air Force, retiring as a Major.

He achieved his pilot’s license. Was a member of several air museums and supported Abilene Aviation. Owner of 2 airplanes, his joy was his L2, Taylor Craft. A cloth covered prop plane. He helped restore and display FIFI, a WWII B29 Bomber.

Ralph loved life, taking an interest in all it had to offer. Generous to a fault, he never understood why anyone would not do a kindness when they had the opportunity. Stubborn, independent and much loved.

Proceeded in death by his brothers Vern, Bob, Don and sister Ilene (Favand). Survived by his children Ralph Viola, Cindy (Dainard), Toni and husband David (Pearson). Grandchildren Jeasen and Anji Viola, Samuel, wife Amy, and Meriah Dainard, Laura and Anna Pearson. All of Washington State.

Services will be Monday, April 8, 10:30 am at 1st Southern Baptist Church, 1400 Mulberry St in Abilene. Visitation will be Sunday, April 7, 2024 from 5:30 pm to 7:00 pm at the Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home, 414 NW 3rd, Abilene.

Memorials may be made thru Martin-Becker-Carlson to the 4H, Abilene Airport, Mt Pleasant Presbyterian, Abilene Historical Museum, The Arts Council, Neighbor to Neighbor, The Great Plains Theatre or the Community Foundation of Dickinson County.

View Full Obituary

Alberta Mae Rhodes - May 07, 1923 - March 31, 2024

Departed: 03/31/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Alberta Mae Rhodes joined her family and friends up in heaven on Sunday, March 31, 2024 in Harlingen, Texas.

She was born May 7, 1923 to Albert and Viola (Hawk) Funk who preceded her in death. Also she was preceded in death by two sisters Becky Funk, Rachel M. Drake and a brother Daniel Funk.

She graduated from Abilene High School in Abilene with the class of 1941. She was the youngest of her family.

Alberta married her classmate Donald D. “Dusty” Rhodes on November 20, 1945 in Long Beach, CA. They later divorced with no children.

She is survived by three nephews and their families, Frank Drake of Overland Park, Kansas, Andrew “Andy” Funk of Comstock, Texas, Albert “Butch” Funk of San Antonio, Texas, plus cousins and many friends.

Her friendly nature and a very caring of people endeared her to everyone who met her.

View Full Obituary

Marla Forsyth - January 01, 1962 - March 29, 2024

Departed: 03/29/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Marla (Lefert) Forsyth, 62, of rural Abilene departed from her earthly home on Friday, March 29, 2024, after fighting a courageous nearly five-year battle with stage four colon cancer with her family and friends faithfully by her side. Marla was born January 1, 1962, the daughter of Leo and Rosemary (Otto) Lefert. Marla was raised on the family farm in the rural community between Wakefield and Chapman. She was baptized at the Wakefield United Methodist Church. She attended grade school at Upland and graduated from Chapman High School with the class of 1980. Marla graduated from Cloud County Community College and while she was there met the love of her life Roger Forsyth. Marla went on to Kansas State University and graduated with a degree in Interior Design. Marla and Roger were married June 2, 1984, at the Wakefield United Methodist Church. Marla and Roger made their home on the Dickinson/Clay County line. Their son Daniel was born in 1987 and daughter Elizabeth was born in 1991.

Marla grew up as a 12-year-member of the Fragrant Hilltopper 4-H Club in Dickinson County She was a third-generation organizational leader for Fragrant Hill, behind her mother Rosemary and paternal grandfather Herman. Marla was very active in Dickinson County 4-H her entire life from being a 4-H member herself including earning her Key Award, being a club leader, Dickinson County 4-H Council Advisor, serving on the extension council and helping on many occasions on the club and county level. Marla was also an active member of the Industry Community Church where she had been a member since Roger and she were married and moved to the Industry community in 1984.

Marla’s first career passion was interior design. She was a furniture sales consultant at Kansas Home Furnishings in Abilene for 8 years before moving to Orr’s Furniture City in Clay Center for 15 years. Marla’s second career was with Green Team Cars then later Friesen Dodge Chrysler Jeep and Ram in Clay Center for 16 years. Marla retired in April 2023. She continued to stay connected with many of her customers who became friends due to Marla's ability to touch people's lives in often tangible ways, and a genuine caring attitude that went above and beyond her job duties.

Her grandsons Easton and Paulson were Marla's greatest joy. She enjoyed spending retirement with the boys and spending time at the home that she had lovingly cared for while raising her family and being hospitable to her friends and nearby extended family. She enjoyed hosting family and friends and continuing traditions.

Marla leaves behind her husband Roger, they would have celebrated 40 years of marriage this June; son Danny and his children Easton and Paulson; daughter Elizabeth Perks and husband Thomas; mother Rosemary Lefert; sister Nancy Kohman (Steve) and their children Megan Bieberle (Malik), Sarah Kohman (Alex), Kyle Kohman; brother-in-law JW Forsyth (Ronda); aunts Linda Lefert and Evelyn Otto; cousins Scott Otto (Darla) and children; Sandy Smith (Roger); Jennifer Schley (Kent) and children; Justin Lefert (Becky) and children; Loran Lefert (Samantha) and children and many dear friends. Marla was preceded in death by her grandson Kaysen Forsyth; father Leo Lefert; in-laws John and Imogene Forsyth; and uncles Gary Lefert and Dean Otto.

The family will receive friends and family on Tuesday, April 2nd from 5-7 PM at the Wakefield Methodist Church in Wakefield, KS. Services will be held Wednesday, April 3rd at 10 AM at the Wakefield Methodist Church, Wakefield, KS. Marla’s final resting place will be at Athelstane Cemetery.

Memorials in her name may be made to the Dickinson County 4-H Foundation or Meadowlark Hospice and may be sent in care of Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home, 414 NW Third St., Abilene, KS 67410.

View Full Obituary

Gary Lee Donley - July 28, 1937 - March 22, 2024

Departed: 03/22/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Gary L. Donley, age 86, passed away on March 22, 2024, peacefully at Village Manor nursing home after a brief illness. Gary was born July 28,1937, in Winfield, Kansas, to parents Carrol Reece Donley and Evelene Dorothy (McGee) Donley. They raised Gary in Oxford, Kansas, where he grew up helping his family on the farm.

Gary married his wife Virginia (Nicholson) Donley on June 15, 1957, at the Methodist Church in Oxford, KS. They moved to Abilene, Kansas, when he continued his banking career serving in several capacities from 1967 to 1997. Gary was a member of the First United Methodist Church in Abilene, singing in the choir and serving on the Board of Trustees as acting Chairman.

Many who know Gary remember him as an avid golfer with the nickname “Crunch”. He also took great pride in watching his kids and grandkids grow up playing sports throughout the years. Gary was involved in the business community as a past president of the Abilene Chamber of Commerce and was a member of the Abilene Elks Club. Gary was also active in the Masonic Lodge and an ambassador for Isis Shrine serving in the clown unit.

Survivors include wife Virginia Donley of Abilene and their children, daughter Soncia Schmitt (Steven) of Olathe, KS, son Talbot Donley (Tammy) of Broken Arrow, OK, and son Clay Donley (Jana) of Salina, KS. Surviving grandchildren are Samantha Schmitt of Merriam, KS, Skyler Schmitt (Sydnee) of Lee’s Summit, MO, Taelor Donley (Lauren) of Tulsa, OK, Damon Smith of Tulsa, OK, Cory Donley (Gee Yong) of Santee, CA, Cara Butterfield (Jacob) of Olathe, KS, brother-in-law Ed Sauzek of Ponca City, OK, and many nieces and nephews.

Gary is preceded in death by his parents Carrol and Evelyn, infant son Jeffrey Donley, and his sister Carolyn Sauzek of Ponca City, OK. Many of his in laws have preceded him as well: Chauncey and Genny Nicholson, Verle and Betty Nicholson, Carol and Bonnie Nicholson, Kenneth and Daryll Nicholson, Bob and Barbara Wharton, and Norman and Veloris Chamberlain.

The family is planning a memorial service at Martin Becker Carlson Funeral Home on Saturday, March 30, 2024, from 2-4 pm. Memorial contributions may be made to Village Manor or to Hospice of Dickinson County. Memorials can be sent to Martin Becker Carlson Funeral Home, 414 NW Third St., Abilene, KS 67410.

View Full Obituary

Margaret Veal - April 24, 1949 - March 21, 2024

Departed: 03/21/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview:

View Full Obituary

Georgia Marie Phillips - January 07, 1928 - March 16, 2024

Departed: 03/16/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Georgia Marie Phillips, 96 of Abilene, Kansas passed away on Saturday, March 16, 2024 at Village Manor Nursing Home. Georgia was born on January 7, 1928 in Enterprise, Kansas, the daughter of George and Amy Haslouer. She grew up in the Enterprise area. She married Donald Phillips on September 22, 1947 at St. Andrew’s church in Abilene, KS. Don and Georgia had four children; Patricia, Jeanette, Sarah, and Charles.

Georgia was a homemaker during the early married years, and after the kids got into school, she worked for eight years as a nurses’ aide. She then drove a nine passenger school bus for the Chapman school district for six years. Georgia was a Girl Scout Leader for ten years and leader of the food’s class in 4H for six years. She enjoyed oil painting (many of which can be found in the children’s homes), gardening, and most any type of craft. She was also active in the Enterprise EHU group. She and Don had a standing monthly pinochle game with their Enterprise friends. She was a member of St. Andrew’s Catholic Church in Abilene.

Her main interest was always with her children and grandchildren. She was always there for the kids growing up, but, she loved taking care of the grandkid’s; watching them for their parents, going to their sporting events, dances, 4H reviews, and anything else they might be involved in. To some of them she was the “orange” grandma, to others “Grandma Lambie”, but to all, greatly loved.

Survivor’s include: her children, Patricia Oglesby (Mike) of Goodyear, AZ; Jeanette Vahsholtz of Abilene, KS; Sarah Tidwell of Emporia, KS; and Charles Phillips (Jackie) of Enterprise, KS; eight grandchildren, Michelle Roeser (Rayne), Amanda Kay (Aaron), Travis Ramos, Philip Tidwell (Liesl), Chris Tidwell (Stephanie), Cassie Kolinski (Trevor), Callie Bell (TJ), and Carlie Huser (Adam); 13 great grandchildren and 2 great-great grandchildren. She was preceded in death by her parents (George and Amy Haslouer), her husband (Don Phillips), a grandchild (Curt Oglesby) and a great grandchild (Chance Ramos).

Memorial contributions may be made to St. Jude Children’s Hospital or Hospice of Dickinson County.

View Full Obituary

Mary D White - August 18, 1924 - March 13, 2024

Departed: 03/13/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview:

View Full Obituary

Judith L Hettenbach - March 23, 1957 - March 13, 2024

Departed: 03/13/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Judy Louise (Mikesell) Hettenbach, of Abilene, KS, entered into the presence of her Lord and Savior on March 13, 2024, surrounded by family and close friends. For all 66 years of her life, she was a devoted sister, wife, mother, Nana and friend.

Judy was born to Ernest and Margaret Mikesell of Belleville, KS on March 23, 1957. She was the oldest of four. Judy had an early love of reading and that continued throughout her life. Judy loved to play with the barn cats and kittens on the farm. During high school, Judy worked as a candy striper and that sparked her interest in nursing and helping others in that way. After graduating high school, she attended Central Christian for one year and then graduated from Asbury School of Nursing as an RN. She worked at Asbury Hospital as a nurse on the Pediatrics and Med/Surg units.

In 1978, Judy met Bruce Hettenbach and they were married on December 1, 1979. They enjoyed 44 wonderful years of marriage together. Judy and Bruce enjoyed ski trips to Colorado, a trip to Niagara Falls with the Halls, and having friends over to play games. Many Saturday nights were spent at Bruce’s parents playing Pitch. In 1985 they moved to Abilene for Bruce’s accounting business and invested deeply into their new community.

In 1987 Ellen joined their family, followed by Sarah in 1990. Being a mom was one of Judy’s greatest joys and she was a patient and loving mom. Judy was a good teacher, and she spent many years of her life homeschooling her girls and helping lead Heartland Home Educators. Countless hours were spent taking the girls to various sports practices and meets and cheering them on in their pursuits. Family vacations were a yearly highlight. The girls and their friends remember cooking and baking often with Judy. She loved her 4 grandkids: Nathan, Natalie, Nora and Noah. She would read books and play with them. She enjoyed giving them gifts and sending them mail with fun papers and stickers in it.

Judy made many crocheted baby blankets, afghans, and quilts for friends and family. Judy loved to listen to hymns and had many hymns completely memorized. Piano music brought Judy joy and she shared that joy with others by teaching beginning piano lessons. Judy enjoyed capturing everyday life through the camera lens and putting together photo albums. She enjoyed walking with Bruce and admiring the moon and sunsets.

Most of all though, Judy loved the Lord. Judy and Bruce were faithful members of Community Bible Church for 36 years. Judy served for over 20 years as the preschool Sunday School teacher and several years helped to organize VBS. She was instrumental in the Ladies Prayer group and impacted many lives through her careful study of the Bible and her prayers. She devoted large amounts of the Word to memory and documented many verses she prayed over her loved ones.

Judy is preceded in death by her parents, Ernest and Margaret, and her brother Fred Mikesell, all of Belleville. She is survived by her husband, Bruce of Abilene; daughters Ellen (Michael) Pope of Wichita, KS and their children, Nathan, Natalie, Nora and Noah; and Sarah Hettenbach of Colorado Springs, CO; brother Dave (Lisa) Mikesell of Republic, KS and sister Nancy (Greg) Gossell of Lee’s Summit, MO, and many nieces and nephews. A visitation will be held Thursday, March 21st from 6-8 pm at Community Bible Church. Services will be held March 22nd at 11 am at Community Bible Church. Memorial contributions can be made to Community Bible Church, Kansas Bible Camp, or Village Manor. Memorials can be sent to Martin Becker Carlson Funeral Home, 414 NW Third St., Abilene, Kansas 67410. Online condolences can be sent to www.martinbeckercarlson.com

View Full Obituary

Bobby Joe Leister - October 27, 1940 - March 10, 2024

Departed: 03/10/2024 (Abilene)

Obituary Preview: Bobby Joe Leister passed away March 10th at age 83. He was born Oct. 27th1940 to Robert Leister & Lorene Buck Leister in Altus, Oklahoma. Bobby served 3 years in the military with 14 months in Korea. He married Mary Sue Spittles Dec. 2nd, 1961- later divorcing. To this union they had 4 Children. Scott, Abilene, Dirk (Alana) Wichita and Wendy Surritte (David) Abilene and a daughter Melissa who died at birth. Bobby married Harriet Welton Leister in 1974 gaining 3 stepchildren. Robert, Don and Danny Beeler.

Bobby spent 4 years as a Police officer and Fireman in Junction City, KS. He also owned a service station and was owner of Security Fence Company in JC from 1977-1986. He then went to work at Ft. Riley from 1986-2013 retiring as Union President. He did computer repair and worked on target devices.

Bobby was preceded in death by his daughter Melissa, late wife, sister MaryEllen and daughter-n-law Sherry, stepchildren Robert and Don Beeler. He is survived by his brother Gary (Theresa) Leister Chapman, Kansas, sister Sue Jasper Amarillo, TX his children and 5 Grandchildren Charlotte, Justin and Savannah Leister, Braydon and Dawson Surritte. 6 step grandchildren, Daniel, Ana live in MO, Bobby Joe (FL) and Jason Pipes (April) of Abilene, Jolina Boland and Tara Waymire. and 2 great granddaughters, nieces and nephews. The family has chosen cremation and graveside services will be at a later date at the Kansas Veterans Cemetery

View Full Obituary

123Next ›Last »

Funeral Services Offered

Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home offers a wide range of funeral services to meet the unique needs of each family they serve. From traditional funeral ceremonies to cremation services, memorial gatherings, and graveside burials, their experienced staff will work with you to create a personalized tribute that honors your loved one's life. They also offer pre-planning services, allowing you to make informed decisions about your own funeral arrangements and alleviate the burden on your loved ones.

Cremation Services

Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home understands that cremation is an increasingly popular choice for many families. That's why they offer a variety of cremation options, including direct cremation, cremation with a memorial service, and cremation with a traditional funeral ceremony. Their state-of-the-art crematory ensures that your loved one is treated with dignity and respect throughout the process.

Pre-Planning Services

Pre-planning your funeral arrangements can be a wise decision for many reasons. Not only does it allow you to make informed choices about your own funeral, but it also alleviates the emotional and financial burden on your loved ones during a difficult time. Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home offers pre-planning services that enable you to plan ahead, ensuring that your wishes are respected and your family is protected from unnecessary stress.

Facilities and Amenities

The facilities at Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home are designed to provide comfort and convenience to families during their time of need. Their spacious chapel can accommodate large gatherings, while their cozy visitation rooms provide an intimate setting for smaller groups. They also offer ample parking, wheelchair accessibility, and a variety of amenities to ensure that every family feels welcome and supported.

Staff and Leadership

The staff at Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home is comprised of dedicated professionals who are passionate about providing exceptional care to families. From licensed funeral directors to administrative staff, every team member is committed to delivering personalized service with compassion, empathy, and understanding. Their leadership team has decades of experience in the funeral industry, ensuring that every family receives the highest level of care and attention.

Community Involvement

Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home is deeply rooted in the Abilene community, with a strong commitment to giving back through various charitable initiatives and community programs. They believe that supporting local organizations and events helps build stronger relationships and fosters a sense of unity among community members. By partnering with local businesses and organizations, they strive to make a positive impact on the lives of those they serve.

Why Choose Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home?

In times of sorrow, it's essential to have a trusted partner by your side. Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home offers a unique blend of compassion, expertise, and personalized care that sets them apart from other funeral homes in the area. By choosing Martin-Becker-Carlson Funeral Home, you can trust that your loved one will be treated with dignity and respect, and that every detail will be carefully attended to ensure a meaningful celebration of their life.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is an obituary?

An obituary is a written notice that announces the death of a person, typically including their name, age, date of birth and death, and other biographical information. It may also include details about their life, accomplishments, and surviving family members.

Why are obituaries important?

Obituaries serve as a way to share the news of a loved one's passing with friends, family, and community. They provide an opportunity to honor and celebrate the person's life, and offer a sense of closure for those who are grieving.

Who writes an obituary?

Typically, a family member or close friend writes the obituary, although it can also be written by a funeral home or other professional service. The writer should have a good understanding of the person's life and relationships.

What information should be included in an obituary?

A typical obituary includes the person's name, age, date of birth and death, place of residence, occupation, education, military service, hobbies, and surviving family members. It may also include information about the funeral or memorial service.

How long should an obituary be?

The length of an obituary can vary depending on the publication and the family's wishes. Generally, it should be concise and to the point, ranging from a few sentences to a few paragraphs.

Can I include photos in an obituary?

Yes, many publications allow photos to be included with the obituary. This can be a nice way to personalize the notice and help readers remember the person.

How do I submit an obituary to a newspaper?

Contact the newspaper's obituary department directly to find out their specific submission guidelines. Some newspapers may accept online submissions, while others may require email or phone submissions.

Can I write my own obituary in advance?

Yes, some people choose to write their own obituary in advance as a way to ensure that their life is represented accurately and with dignity. This can also be a therapeutic exercise in reflecting on one's life.

Is it necessary to include all family members in an obituary?

No, it is not necessary to include all family members in an obituary. However, it is generally considered respectful to mention spouses, children, grandchildren, and siblings.

Can I include humorous or lighthearted anecdotes in an obituary?

Yes, many families choose to include humorous or lighthearted stories about their loved one as a way to celebrate their personality and spirit.

How much does it cost to publish an obituary?

The cost of publishing an obituary varies depending on the newspaper and the length of the notice. Some papers may charge by the word or line, while others may offer package deals.

Can I publish an obituary online only?

Yes, many online platforms and funeral homes offer options for publishing obituaries online only. This can be a more affordable option than traditional print publications.

How long will my obituary remain online?

The length of time an obituary remains online varies depending on the platform or publication. Some may keep archives indefinitely, while others may remove them after a certain period.

Can I make corrections to an obituary after it has been published?

If you need to make corrections to an obituary after it has been published, contact the publication or funeral home directly. They may be able to make changes or issue a correction notice.

What is the difference between an obituary and a death notice?

A death notice is typically a brief announcement of someone's passing, while an obituary provides more detailed information about the person's life and legacy.

Can I include charitable donations or memorials in an obituary?

Yes, many families choose to include information about charitable donations or memorials in lieu of flowers as a way to honor their loved one's memory.

How do I handle sensitive or complicated family relationships in an obituary?

In cases where family relationships are complex or strained, it's best to prioritize sensitivity and tact when writing the obituary. Consider seeking guidance from a trusted advisor or counselor if needed.

Can I include quotes or lyrics in an obituary?

Yes, quotes or lyrics that were meaningful to the person can be included in the obituary as a way to add depth and personality.

What if I don't want to publish an obituary at all?

While publishing an obituary is a common practice, it is not required. Some families may choose not to publish an obituary due to personal preferences or cultural traditions.

Can I write multiple versions of an obituary for different audiences?

Yes, some families choose to write multiple versions of an obituary tailored to different audiences, such as friends, coworkers, or community groups.

How do I ensure that my loved one's story is told accurately in their obituary?

To ensure accuracy, gather information from multiple sources and verify facts before submitting the obituary. It's also helpful to have multiple people review the notice before publication.

What if I need help writing an obituary?

If you're struggling to write an obituary, consider seeking guidance from a funeral home director, counselor, or professional writer who specializes in crafting meaningful tributes.

Can I use social media to share an obituary?

Yes, social media can be a powerful tool for sharing news of a loved one's passing and celebrating their life. Many funeral homes and online platforms offer tools for sharing obituaries on social media.

How do I preserve my loved one's legacy beyond the initial publication of their obituary?

Beyond the initial publication of the obituary, consider creating a memorial website, scrapbook, or other keepsake that celebrates your loved one's life and legacy.